What do I do now that I know I'm pregnant?

Question

I am 15 years old and pregnant. Only my best friend and boyfriend know. There is NO WAY I am going to abort cuz that's just cruel. I don't know what I'm supposed to do and how to tell my parents cuz it was all kind of a mistake. My parents are against me having a boyfriend and they have NO IDEA about my boyfriend and they would have gotten mad about that in itself. What am I supposed to do? Please don't tell me I have to abort because I'm not going to do it. My parents would be against it as well. HELP!

Answer 1

I though my mom would freak out when I told her I was pregnant.. she was disappointed but we cried and then she was there for me.. she got me to the doctor and was at my side through my entire pregnancy.. just be honest with them they may get angry but just out of disappointment they won't love you any less.. now that you know you are pregnant you need to make an appointment with an OBGYN also look into medicaid for pregnant women in your area and sign up for WIC.. this will help you with the insurance and the WIC will help you with food during your pregnancy and formula and food for the baby when it is born.  

Answer 2

Tell them right away, and tell them to their faces i dont want to abort, although youre 15 i dont know if youre body could handle having a baby, oh well tell ur parents right away or tell someone in ur family like someone whos close to you, and tell them to tell ur parents. One of my friends got pregnant and they told their parents and she had the baby.

Teeell someoneee

Answer 3

It was no mistake. You had s*x. You knew what could happen.

And now you want help from complete strangers. You were adult enough to s***w, be adult enough to deal with the consequences.

Go tell mommy and daddy that you did something stupid and now you need them to raise your child because you are still a child yourself. Or, ask them for help placing the baby with an adoptive family that is actually prepared to raise it and give the poor thing a chance.

Answer 4

That's right abortion is not the answer. Your time to make a choice was before you got pregnant.    Your mum will be devastated, but mum's are extremely resilient as you are about to find out. She will be hurt that you hadn't talked to her about having a boyfriend.  Let her vent her feelings, this will be a huge shock.  Don't make excuses, don't blame anyone else and do let her know, that you know you made a wrong choice and hurt her.  Do not yell in your defense.  Just wait patiently as your mum works through her emotions.  She will come through for you.  Remember she probably wasn't thinking about becoming a grandmother, youv'e just aged her 15 years!

Your Dad, he'll be very angry at the boyfriend for doing this to his little girl.   Be humble towards them. You need them, it's worth riding the storm.   Tell them immediately, people always want to tell a secret to just one person.  You must tell them before they hear it elsewhere or guess. Parents aren't easily fooled and they would be so hurt if other people knew first.  If your boyfriend is serious about you, he should have the courage to tell them with you, they will respect that.

Answer 5

just sit them down and tell them or write them a note or something they'll probably be angry but they'll get over it and i'm sure they'll help you and be there for you  

Answer 6

talk to your parents as soon as possible, write them a letter, once its out in the open you will feel better, x

Answer 7

Follow Murphy's Laws:

1) If anything can go wrong, it will.

2) If there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the one to go wrong.

3) If anything just cannot go wrong, it will anyway.

4) If you perceive that there are four possible ways in which something can go wrong, and circumvent these, then a fifth way, unprepared for, will promptly develop.

5) Left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse.

6) If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.

7) Nature always sides with the hidden flaw.

8) Mother nature is a *****.

So, it seems that nothing is going to go the way you planned. You acted like an adult now you must suffer the consequences like an adult and be responsible for what wrong you did.

Answer 8

hun

i wen tthrough the same thing

just tell them and if they really love u theyll help u through this time

and if u need any more advice or anything just emial me!!

cuase i no exactley wat ur going through!!!!

Answer 9

Tell them, they'll be mad but they'll get over it and help you with it.. EVERYONE makes mistakes, some bigger than others. Have a friend there when you tell them cause if they're like my parents they won't make a big deal outta stuff if your friends are there.  

Answer 10

just walk up to both of them and tell them straight out. the sooner the better

Answer 11

Help?  We adults just got told in no uncertain terms that we don't know anything about why it is good for teens to have s*x.  And that is is none of our business.   So in all honesty we could tell you 'you did it, you deal with it, but we won't.  

But One More Time:  A baby is not a mistake.  Failing a test is a mistake, knicking your fender is a mistake.  Not separating colored clothes from whites is a mistake.  

A baby is a person not a mistake.  

You are going to have to tell some adult.  Maybe his mother.  You need to been seen by a doctor and get on prenatal vitamins.  You also need to start thinking about adoption.  Life s going to be a mess for about a year.  Get used to it.  

There will be times you want to keep this marvelous little creature you and your boy friend conceived but babies cost a lot in terms of time and money.   You may not be able to stay in school after the baby comes,  your boyfriend best get a job.  Fast.  You will need insurance.

You will need support.  You aren't even old enough to drive.  You are barely old enough to have a small job.

And yes, your parents will have a fit.    You are just going to have to grow up fast and learn to deal wth life.  You are going to cry, get mad and hurt for a while, but you will be ok.  

And your baby can have a good home.  An adoption does not necessarily mean you never see the baby again.  Talk to people at planned parenthood about adoption.

Answer 12

I agree that you should NOT what so ever have an abortion, and I think it is Really good that you know that as well. I think you just need to sit down with your parents and be straight with them, you have to be an adult now and there is no other way to do it. If there is one parent you are closer to like your mom, I would suggest telling her first. Or you could write them a letter and have them read it when you are there. Sorry there is no easy way, you just have to bite the bullet sweetie. Good luck!

Answer 13

just tell 'em walk up to them and get it over with

Answer 14

NO MATTER WHAT UR NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO HIDE IT SO U HAVE TO TALK TO UR PARENTS YEA THERE GOING TO BE MAD AND HURT BUT THEY WILL EVENTUALLY GET OVER IT THERE UR PARENTS THEY LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!! AND MAKE SURE NO MATTER WHAT FINISH SCHOOL AND GIVE THE BABY A GOOD LIFE AND I AINT ONE TO TELL U TO ABORT BECAUSE THATS A HUMAN BEING EVEN THOUGH IT CANT BREATH ON IT OWN YET ITS STILL A HUMAN AND THAT IS CRUEL!!!! BUT HONESTLY U DO NEED TO TALK TO UR PARENTS JUST SIT THEM DOWN AND EXPLAIN THE SITUATION AND LEARN FROM UR MISTAKE NOT REDO IT  

Answer 15

It good that you don't want to do an abortion is not the baby's fault. About ur parents is gonna be difficult for them to understand your situation and most parents always say no BF or pregnant and bla bla but im sure after they find out ur preggo they will be dissapointed and sad and angry BUT give them some time to get used to the idea about their little girl been pregnant.. they love you and they will love ur baby

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 16

Check out http://standupgirl.com/web/index.php

There are lots of stories and you can use a few of them to formulate what you want to say to your parents.

I applaud you for not wanting an abortion!

http://www.meant4more.com/

Answer 17

Tell them straight up its all you can do

Answer 18

I don't think abortion is the answer here.  If you are scared to go to your parents right away, you should confide in another adult and can help you make a decision and they can help you to tell you parents.  There are free pregnancy testing clinics all over, maybe start there...they usually have trained counselors to help with these types of situations.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 19

I am proud of you for deciding not to abort the baby. That would be worse than getting pregnant in the first place. There was a reason your parents didn't want you to have a boyfriend. I guess now you understand why. Go to another adult and confide in them. I suggest you go to your doctor and let him help you break the news to your parents. Also you need to think about the welfare of the baby. Do you really think that you can finish school and give the baby a life it deserves? One option you need to think about is adoption. As far as your parents are concerned you are their daughter and yes they will get mad and disappointed and lose some trust in you but they will always love you no matter what.  They will not disown you and if your parents are anything like me they have probably raised you to be open and honest with them and you should be able to go to them with anything. I wish you the best of luck for you and your family. Please tell them as soon as possible so that you get the medical attention that you need so you and the baby remain healthy. I'm sure that you now understand why parents have rules and why they are so strict sometimes. It was a hard lesson to learn but i'm sure you have learned it. Please consider my advice on adoption and the well fare and future for you and the baby.

Answer 20

just tell em

so they scream and yell at first

but the dust has to settle sometime