What do I do now that my husband has left me for another woman.?

Question

I'm three months pregnant with our first child. Am I supposed to just leave and get a divorce? Or should I still try to work things out?

Answer 1

I am so sorry this has happened to you. MY advice would be to move on. Seek the support of friends and family while you get your finances and life figured out and move on.

Answer 2

Does he know you're expecting? If he does, and still nothing, then pack your belly up and leave!  The nerve!!! I don't know what drove him out but still, you're about to undergo a very emotional journey. If it were me, I would leave, have my baby and tell him to kiss off! This is so horrible, I'm sorry you have to experience one of lifes beautiful moments with such a  &^$#@((%$  for a husband. Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

well if he left you for another woman i'd say there is no working it out ,so my advice is get divorced because you have grounds ,  and don't worry so much about your future , someday you'll meet a sweet guy who will treat you right

Answer 4

Honey, dont do anything right now. Just concentrate on taking care of you and your unborn child & try and enjoy what should be a beautiful time.  Dont let him robb you of that as he may never come back anyway if thats what you are hoping for..  The next few months will prove challenging enough without the added stress.  After the birth, when your hormones and emotions have settled and he has had time to live with himself - file, if thats still right for you.  He may see the grass isnt greener and beg to come home, although if he can do this to you now, whilst carrying his child it is doubtful he wont do it again. personal experience tells me, if he does come home he will only do it again. I discovered recently my partner of nearly two years was married with kids. The youngest 7 months old.  That means that he must have been with me knowing she wa pregnant and left my home to take her to the hospital and came to me after he brought his newborn daughter home.  I found out about the wife when his daughter was 7 months old.  He walked out on his wife when I found out.  But she did say he had done this before.  So he still didnt change.  This is the 3rd time his children have gone through this.  He is still keeping his options open.  Will date me if I am prepared to but doesnt want to divorce, just live apart for now.  All the time he is telling his wife he is just confused and wants to work things out.  So I hope you dont take him back and go through years of this like she has and with your child too.  Only you know what you will do, but I hope you put him behind you.  Look after your physical and mental well being, and have the best life with your baby.

Answer 5

DONT get caught in the same trap that so many people get caught in which is staying and thinking they will be able to forgive and forget.

Im sorry but it sounds as though he has moved on and it sounds as though you should too, while you can.

Answer 6

If he left you for somebody else while you are pregnant with his child, then he is certainly not worth fighting for.

Do you want a father like that for your child? What a great role model he will be.

My personal opinion is that you should forget about him. You don't need the stress and garbage that comes along with a cheater, especially when you are pregnant.

Answer 7

First of all.. I would like to say that I am so sorry this has happened to you! No one should ever have to deal with this.

Only you can answer your question though. If you think it's possible that you can forgive him and move on, AND that he wants to work things out then I would say to give it a shot. Unfortunately, if he is not interested in working things out then there may not be much you can do. And if you can't forgive him, you may end up being miserable if you stayed together (always worrying when he comes home late, etc).

It's a tough decision, I wish you all the best.

Answer 8

Well since he's left there's nobody to work things out with, is there? Don't chase after someone who doesn't want you. He's made his choice, now you have to make the choice to move on. Good luck.  

Answer 9

Did he know that you were pregnant when he left?  That is so cold.

Although I do not know why he left, I can only suggest that you continue to be strong.  You are in a stressful corner of this world right now, but it will change.  Just ride out the storm.  Prepare as you had planned only with a few changes.  Wishing you the best.

Answer 10

Ouch! Honestly, do you really want to try to work things out after he left you while pregnant for another woman?  What's to stop him from doing it again? Can you trust him after all this?

Answer 11

Wow....

If he left then he's move on.

I would fight for my marriage no matter what.

If he doesn't want to work it out then just focus on you and your baby.

Maybe he'll end up coming back to reality.  Pray over it and just try not to stress your self please!

Answer 12

If he Left you for another woman i don't think he wants you no more.so i think you should file for divorce if that jerk left you for someone else you don't need him. you cant even call that thing a man what kind of man walks out on his pregnant wife.

sorry and good luck

Answer 13

divorce, sue his asss for child support, concentrate on caring for your child, and try to move on.  sorry you have to go through that.

Answer 14

you are supposed to leave and think of your baby when considering getting back with him. he basically not only abandoned you, his wife, he abandoned his unborn child. there is no shame in giving birth and being a strong woman without him. trust me, if he did once, he will do it over and over again. you have to do this now. you must stand on your own two feet. you won't regret it, if you do. put your baby first now. he/she doesn't deserve this, and neither do you!

Answer 15

its good he showed you his character before your baby was born to only witness him and repeat that cycle..you need to thank him or her (who he ran off with) cause now..for the rest of your life you are grooing an individual to be an assett in this society of ours and trust me you want to be proud of your work..Him being around may make your child into another him...Good luck...but someone is always going thru something just a little tougher than you so smile and see the silver lining in all of this..take care mommy to be and congrats    

Answer 16

It's pretty clear he has moved on and your relationship is over. You need to get family, friends and surround yourself with supportive people. Get an attorney and start divorce proceedings. You're pregnant so you need to take care of yourself. Go to state agencies, counselors, anyone who can help you get through this and can give you advice and guidance on how to get on with your life and what you need to do to get a place to live, a job and be able to care for your child. The attorney will want to make up documents regarding care of your child and child support from your ex husband.