What do I do when he won't buy me a ring?

Question

My boyfriend asked me to his wife, and I said yes. He asked me, but he had no ring. I'm not really worried about it, but we've been together forever and he says that he doesn't need a ring to marry me, or I'll buy it when I can. When he asked me I thought he was being serious, but now I think he's just joking around.

Answer 1

how important is that ring for you? if you are a traditionalist and he refuses to buy you a ring i think you need to tell him so. if he still refuses to buy you a ring(and it doesn't need to be a real expensive one) then you might want to reconsider your answer to him. he might have been joking with you and this might be someone that you do want in your life.

Answer 2

Been there, done that and he's not the one that I married. I was asked by a guy I was going out with for about 2 years if I would marry him. I agreed and he said we would get the ring when he had enough money saved up for one that I would like. We even picked out rings together so he knew what I would like. About 6 months after that, we broke up. He decided that he would rather be single and hook up with as many girls as he could before settling down. So about 8 months after that, I met my hubby and we have been married for almost 8 years now.

I really don't think your man is serious, other-wise he would take your concerns seriously.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Have a serious talk with him and see if he really wants to get married. You don't have to have an engagement ring.

Answer 4

Don't mention getting married anymore.  If he happens to, tell him when he can buy you a engagement ring then you'll know he's serious about getting married.  

Answer 5

it sounds like an easy way out of buying you a ring, or perhaps he isn't serious about marrying you.  if he really had strong feelings against tradition (which is fine) he should have been more out spoken on the subject.

Answer 6

Tell him that you are hurt that you did not get a ring and you don't feel like he is serious about it.

If he is worried about the money part you can try offering some options in regards to rings. You could get a cubic zirconia for now, then later on you can get a diamond. Or, you can opt for a smaller diamond ring.

They have lots of great engagement rings available at Walmart. http://www.walmart.com/browse/Rings/Soli...

Target also carries some lovely rings.

Either way, I know that I would be hurt and would definitely want a ring. Be sure to let him know that - he really should get you a ring.  

Answer 7

My husband gave me lots of jewelries before we got marrried. Now we're married I am only wearing our wedding ring. In my opinion it is not really important to have that engagement ring what is important is the love you have. But if you really crave for that ring then it's better to tell him before you tie the knot.

Congratulations!!!!

Answer 8

These days some people dont do the rings. And there are some people that are really anti-materialistic and dont want to spend their money on it. You should talk with your fiance and find out where he is coming from on this, and communicate what your wishes are as well. Im afraid you are both headed for misunderstandings and hurt feelings unless you get it out in the open.