What do I say? What do I do? ugh...boys...?

Question

This is my first question on here...so here it goes...

There's this guy who is a friend of mine, and for many years I really liked him, but I am a very introverted person and not open about that kind of thing. And after awhile, I told myself to stop kidding myself and move on with my life, especially now that high school is over. Plus I hadn't even talked to him in months, but then all of the sudden we started talking again. Not very often, but more often than we had been. And it is just really messing with me because after years of liking him and now I'm trying not to anymore, it's becoming hard...and he's suggested we hang out and stuff...but it's never happened and now I don't know what to do. I really like talking to him cause we seem to have a lot in common, but whenever I try to...I freeze...and I have a limited of ideas of what to say to start conversation...stuff other than "hey whats up" "hows it going" etc...So I guess some of my questions are, what type of things do I talk about? Do you think he likes me? Friends have told me he probably does, but I just can’t believe that. Any advice…suggestions…words of wisdom…are appreciated..

Answer 1

Since he wants to talk to you again, it probably means that he wants to get involved with you, either as a friend or as a romantic partner. The only way you will know for sure is if you ask him how he feels, even though that might be difficult for you.

If he wants to hang out or talk, just tell yourself to be calm. Let your mind flow. Don't try to think too hard about conversation starters and the like; just be relaxed and let the conversation go where it wants to.

Be confident around him. Be yourself. Don't try to hide yourself behind words and actions; just let the person you are shine through. If he truely likes you, he will also like the person you are inside.

-Dee