What do I say to my grandma after not speaking to her after a year +?

Question

Three years ago, I contacted my paternal family at the suggestion of maternal relatives after my mom passed away. I did, reluctantly, and began an awkward relationship with them at the age of 23. Last year, however, my paternal grandmother seemed to have a problem with my interracial relationship (maternal family loves my bf!) and told the rest of the paternal side about it. Then, her brother had a problem with my not going to church when I don't even share his same beliefs. My maternal side has always accepted me for who I am and I've known them since birth. My paternal side is too judgemental, especially for people who didn't know me until I was well into adulthood. I stopped speaking with them for over a year not knowing how to reconnect after I felt disrespected, so my worried grandma called a maternal relative for my contact information. That relative told me to call her and let her know I was okay. I really don't want to, but I at least want to write and explain myself. How do I do that without coming off as immature and/or mean?

Answer 1

tell her you miss her

Answer 2

There isn't anything immature or mean about what you will say...  You send her a nice card saying, "Hope you are well"...  "Things are good with me" Talk about the weather & the simple things that do not open doors for her to ask you questions back.

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. And you don't have to involve anyone in your personal business if you don't want to.

It sounds like you are a very well put together woman!  I applaud you for standing up for who you are!!!

Answer 3

Tell them that you're in love and you love them as well. IF it is a mistake then please let them respect you enough to let you learn it on your own

Answer 4

Dear, (relative)

I was extremely offended with our last conversation.  I was appalled at how judgemental people were and how intolerant you people were.  I felt disrespected by (incidents).  You didn't really know me growing up so it's not like we were very close.  My other side of the family is more tolerant and therefore easier to talk with.  If you can be more tolerant in the future I will happily communicate with you.