What do i do? I think my husband is a peeping tom?

Question

I think my husband of 13 years spies on my visitors when they use the bathroom toilet. There is a gap around the bathroom tap and can be seen through the attic. I have noticed that everytime I have someone at my home he disappears and the second toilet becomes locked which forces everyone at home including me to use the other toilet. What do I do? Could I be wrong? How do I know?

Answer 1

aside from asking him - and seeing his response, i would definately! plug up the "gap". at least for your guest's sake!

buy some grout - in a tube - it's inexpensive and seal up the gap.

then you can notice his response.

if it's true he's a peeper, i think that's a serious problem.  

Answer 2

hire a handyman to fix the gap

Answer 3

Dude that's creepy...lol

Answer 4

It does seem a little suspicious. So, next time people come over, and they use the facilities, follow your hubby.

Answer 5

Put a video camera up in the attic next time you have company,  and see what happens.. I would say so just by what you have just said. or next time he goes off. follow him, with out him knowing... But I like the video camera.

Answer 6

call the police

Answer 7

when someone comes over and the other door is locked,and he dissapears-go into the bathroom and look up!..dont tell him tht ur guna go2 the bthrm tho..

good luck! lol [=

Answer 8

Sounds very suspicious - and if he's doing that to visitors --- it's a CRIME!!!! He probably won't quit, it's a sick fetish that he will probably never get over. Get out of this relationship and consider talking to a counselor about what to do. He's twisted and without treatment, eventually he'll be found out, charged and probably jailed on a s*x crime. Do you have children? This is really intolerable!  

Answer 9

Plug the gap, woman! Seriously, he may be a voyeur. It's a fetish. But he's victimizing people by doing it. You'll know, if you find the gap opened up again after you sealed it. You could also stick a little folded note in the gap on his peeping side, "You are hereby instructed to report to me to explain your unspeakably rude behavior and what we're going to do about. Signed: Your Wife."  

Answer 10

WHY is the second toilet locked??  Did you ask him???  That seems strange that you can't even use any bathroom in YOUR home, and that is a clue right there.  TELL your husband that you want that bathroom to be available all the time.  If he doesn't do it or asks you why, you've got him.  I agree that you should put a camcorder up in the attic.....set it up when you know visitors are coming.  Set it up so that it's in the perfect spot, but totally hidden. If he's peeping, sorry about that.....I would wonder what else he's up to.....

Answer 11

yikes. he's sick. he needs help.

confront him and tell him. and if he doesn't stop, you might want to tell the police.

honestly. that's sick and invasion of privacy.

he's sick if he's doing that. mentally and sexually sick

Answer 12

Make a little "trap" upstairs, not something he will notice but that will be disturbed if he goes to wherever he needs to go to do this.  Then bait the trap by inviting over your sexiest sister.  As soon as you can, check to see if your "trap" is tripped.  This trap can be anything:  hairs set across an area at an angle, a tiny scrap of paper in a specific spot, a tiny piece of tape at a strategic spot on the door.  

Once you've caught him though...I can't help you honey...

Answer 13

Protect your guests and tell them they need to use the locked bathroom and get your husband to come unlock the door because "the other toilet is broken" You could also ask him about repairing the gap and see what his answer is. In the meantime stick something in there to block his view and see if he takes it out.