What do i do about him? 10 pts?

Question

ok so my ex and i are trying to do the friend thing but the line keeps getting crossed. when i visited him on his bday for a week (5hrs. away) the first nite he said he would pay for everything cause all he wanted was me there with him. then we watched tv and he kept on holding me in his arms and i even caught him smelling my hair once. he proudly showed me off to his friends. btw yes he does have a gf that no one knows about because her religion and other things. but, on the last nite he ordered pizza went into the bathroom and then came out in nothing but his boxers?! wtf you don't get naked in front of your friends. we did something stupid and made love. he kept staring at me the whole time and holding me! the last day he buys me a $50 dollar dinner and then says 1/2 of him wants to stop hurting me the other half wants me back. so last friday i try to c and talk about me and him he says he cares so much for me and has all these feelings for me but he can't act on them. i know he does feel for me because when we broke up 2 months ago he sobbed on my shoulder over it. so i try to move on but he won't let me. he is constantly asking personal ? like if i have been sleeping with anyone and if i love someone. i just got a job in his city and he called me immediatly to talk about it. he was acting werid laughing at everything and getting all excited. asked about the job and said that when i go up for my interview that he wants to find me an apartment. and then said the strangest thing that it was moving too fast for him (me moving up there) i asked y if it was a bad thing and he said no. but y say that? i am so confused as to what he is doing? Help?

Answer 1

HE SAID IT'S MOVING TOO FAST BECAUSE HE HAS A GF ALREADY AND WITH YOU MOVING IN THE SAME CITY AS HE, HE THINKS YOU STILL WANT TO BE   HIS GIRLFRIEND SINCE YOU TO ARE STILL HAVING s*x TOGETHER, YOU SHOULD LOSE HIM , HE IS STRINGING YOU ALONG, CONCENTRATE ON A NEW BEGINNING FOR YOURSELF

Answer 2

if u still want him, fight to get him back.

if he keeps confusing you and u really want to move on, then tell him that its over and dont pick up when he calls. tell him that he keeps blurring the lines between friendship and bf/gf and that he should be ashamed because he already had a gf. So HE'S the one who's made up his mind. its not 'moving too fast" he has a freakin girlfriend. and while it may or may not last, i feel bad for her cuz i bet she doesnt know. he made a choice to stay with her for now. if u want him back, then stop being there for him. dont pay attention to him, dont answer his calls, tell him to back off for a few months. and see what happens.

good luck!

Answer 3

Well now breaking up is very hard to do,an I believe you do still love each other.But you'll at the end of the road.And he don't know how to move on.You said he has an girlfriend.what about her.So he's prolonging it by trying to keep up with you.If you serious about moving on,I suggest you don't let him get that apartment for you.That just his way of staying in your life.And if serious about moving on.I wouldn't give him anymore honey either,unless he going to quit his girlfriend.Or you going to let him have ice cream and cake too.Your chose.Do you like being #2.Since you gave up the#1 spot 2months ago.

Answer 4

If both of you have these feelings for each other but know it can't work out, I would just stop the friend thing.... it's just going to confuse you, and hold you back from going after what you really want.... plus it sounds like he is just playing with you a bit... I would just tell him you can't do this right now, take a break, no phone calls no e-mails no nothing from him until you settle things in your own head, then when you are ready you can try and communicate with him again....

Answer 5

Apparently he can't handle the friend thing.  Part of him wants you back and part of him wants someone else.  

You will probably have to give up (at least for a while) the friend thing.  Tell him you need some time alone for now, especially since he needs to concentrate on his other relationship and you need to concentrate on your new job.  Tell him you will be in touch when you have yourself more together.

Answer 6

He's obviously not loyal if he cheated on his girlfriend. I would just tell him that you're either friends or not. If you're hung up on this one guy you're never going to know what you are missing.