What do i do about my best friend not wanting to be friends anymore?

Question

okay, so me & my friend have been friends for almost 2 years now.

we always go over to each other's houses & have sleepovers; the good times. but the other day, i emailed her a list of all the things that were bothering me and my sister. like, for instance, how she copied us with the way she dresses & how she wants to be the same thing as me when she grows up. i know that i was being rude and selfish for sending her that, but it was bothering me to the point where i desperately had to tell somebody, just to let it out.

so, she told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. i apologized and said that if i could take it all back, i would in a heartbeat. but she doesn't want to be involved with me and my sister anymore. we've been through the good times and the bad times. before, i was pretty comfortable with not being her friend anymore. but now that i've got the news, i'm pretty sad. i want to make up with her, but she's not going to change her mind.

over the summer, i have to see her everyday at this day camp, and i don't know what to do, since it'll be awkward and uncomfortable not talking to her. this is a really tough time for me, and i've never had this happen to me EVER throughout my entire life. /:

it feels like my heart's been broken into a million pieces.

what do i do now?

Answer 1

Friendships can be difficult.  Understand that you have hurt her deeply and she just might need some space until she can come to grips with how she feels.  You should respect her space.

It sounds like you tried to make amends with her.  Sometimes that is the best that you can do.   You can hope that she will change her mind and forgive you, but you can't force her.

What you can do is use this as a lesson in future friendships.  If someone is irritating you about something, perhaps you should write it down in a journal and figure out why it is bothering you.  Most of the time it is more about us than it is about the other person.  Putting it in print helps us make sense of it and helps us to think carefully before saying something that we might regret later.

Good luck!  I hope she changes her mind!  We all need friends!

Answer 2

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You sent her a letter of everything that annoyed you about her?

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What were you thinking?

I think you should deal with it. I would NEVER want to be friends with someone who would do that to me.

You were bothered that she LOOKED up to you, that she ADMIRED you, that you INSPIRED her?