What do i do about my fiance?..and telling him about my pregnancy...(read on)?

Question

ok so first thigs first..supposedly im on a diet..(like 6 months ago)..and yes i am like 60 pound overweight but thats not that bad right?...and i know i dont workout or go to the gym as oftem as i should butmmy fiance often tells me that it would be a wast of my time to buy any kind of snacks because he will just throw them away..i am not allowed to go to the store without him there because he says i cannot be trusted with money...the only time he has ever had a job while we were together is when we first met and he quite that job and when i went to california to take care of some legal issues he got a job..bt while we lived together he hasnt gotten a job..i work and make all the money then he tells me that i cant spend any money and that i cant be trusted...and then second i am almost 10 weeks pregnant with our first child...he has told me before that he wants kids...but everytime i tried to bring up babies he would get mad and tell me we dont have the money for a kid and it wouldnt happen anytime soon...ok so when i told him like a month ago that i thogh i was pregnant...he said i was lying ad i wwas not pregnant and that was not possible and it was not his...this upset me vey much because i love him with all my heart...and it is his baby...and now everytime i bring it up it starts a figt that ends in me crying and hm storming out and going to his friends house and telling everyone how im being a horrible person and that im being retarted...what should i do i dont want to leave him or anything i really just want him to get a job and take me seriously about being pregnant and help support me i would really like to be a stay at home mom but it dont look like that is going to happen...we have been together for 3 years and currently live with my mom...

Answer 1

Sadly, there isnt one positive thing about your relationship.  He wont work,  he dosent trust you, he talks bad about you to his friends, you guys live with your mother...

No offense but you are being childish saying you want him to change but you dont want to break up with him.  Time to face reality.  

He takes advantage of you and controls your spending BECAUSE YOU ALLOW IT.  Why would you get pregnant by him, a guy who wont work, wont support you...do you think he is goona suppport your child?

He is not a project.  You cannot "work on him" or change him.  It is what it is.  Dont you want more out of life?  Dont you think you deserve better?  Self love, baby.  

Answer 2

he sounds lyk a jerk

leave him

Answer 3

if your the one making the money, then he has no right telling you how to spend it.  you should make him get a job, tell him if he doesnt then he cant be with you.  because you cant work when your 9 months pregnant and for the first few months after the baby is born.. so how are you guys going to have any money.  tell him if he doesnt get a job, you will just make him pay child support, and that will force him to get a job.

Answer 4

Look Ive dated guys like him, and the thing is guys like that don't change. Infact they usually get worst. For one he is emmotionally abusive. He is also very controlling of you. And he has no right to tell you how to spend your money when you are supporting him. I think that you need to leave him, no matter how much it hurts you. You don't want to raise a child with someone like that. All he will do is cause you stress and misery. And its not going to get better when the baby gets here, it will just get worst. Love is not suppose hurt, be selfish, or controlling. In fact its happiness, selflessness, and freedom. So, lose the loser.  

Answer 5

He sounds like an *** o_o

Leave him.

Answer 6

suny side up is 100% right

The price is too high and the consequences and lingering effects are way to painful!” Smart women understand this irrefutable truth.

Good men need to be treated like good men, dishonorable males, need to be let go and left alone!

You were not designed, built or destined for abuse, whether: emotionally, physically or financially. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate… he IS NOT the one; leave him now!