What do i do about my kid legally ?

Question

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Answer 1

Move out.  If your girlfriend wants to stay there, so be it.  

Answer 2

First of all, you need to be commended for doing the right thing by your child.  If your child's mom isn't ready to leave the nest, then you have chosen the wrong girl to have a baby with.  She is still a kid herself (as are you).  A man wouldn't put up with that s**t from the get-go.  So, an order of protection makes no sense.  You signed up for this.  Now, if you want to redeem yourself, take the proceeds from the two jobs, and find yourself an apartment.  Doesn't have to be fancy, but suitable for you and your child.  Present the apartment as an option for the child's mom.  If she doesn't bite, you take your a** down to family court, and file for sole or joint custody of your child and that will force her to step up.  Be sure to have the place first before you do that, or she will kick you out and it will cause a strain on your relationship (more than it is already).  When you file for custody, be sure that you are keeping your receipts for everything that you have spent on your child, because you will have records of doing so.  

I hope everything works out for you.  Take heart.  You are doing the best that you can.  Just be a man.  Don't lay down for people to walk all over you.  

Answer 3

3 month old p nut butter would not hurt you

Answer 4

She needs parenting classes & anger management classes. I don't know what you want to do legally. If she pulled a gun on you you can call the police but you will have to get people involved that you might regret are involved. You have to do something though are something bad is going to happen. We are are learning how to live better but you are on a dangerous level. What is the most important thing for you to do to protect yourself & the baby? Is the baby safe at your g/f's mothers house? This has to come first them you have to work on this in layers.

Answer 5

The person you really need to consult is your girlfriend. Even though you guys are young your still a team and this is really going to result upon you staying together.  If there are guns or questions about child safety(although I don't think personally peanut butter is all that dangerous, but it is your child and your decision on of how your child should be raised) you really need to bring this up to your girlfriend make her aware that staying there is going to eventually pull you two apart, your already taking a hard road working so much she's in college and you have a baby life isn't all like the show "Reba" where people do the right things, and even though her mom's wrong the person you need to talk to is your girlfriend and represent the fact that it's either her mom or you. I'd be afraid to leave the situation with an unstable woman near my child your girlfriend probably feels sorry for her, but she still should not be endangering your life or your young child, if you could video her in this hazardous behavior you could legally file for full custody. But I strongly suggest that before you go down that road you try to find another place for you and your girlfriend and baby to live and explain your distress calmly to her, people do not take others seriously if your huffing and puffin and getting angry(as difficult as it is to be calm at this point) but they tend to listen and become more understanding when your calm and collective. This will show your concerns. If you guys don't have another place to go you should seek out what benefits you may be able to apply for check your state policy on line or even her college financial office and see if there are any housing help for a mother in college and a father supporting her and the baby. Because your young she probably sees leaving her mom as becoming a complete adult and right now as bizarre as it sounds her moms house is her comfort zone. And if her mom is this unstable she probably feels  responsible for her. But really you guys should be starting your new life together as a family. Your own family, she should see the sacrifice your making and appreciate that you love her and want what's best for you and her and baby. I hope it all works out good luck with whatever you choose, but don't be intimidated by her mom understand that she sees you as a threat to take her little girl away your girlfriend needs to break away from her grasp. Good luck.  

Answer 6

She's a bloody psychopath.

Tell the cops.

Answer 7

you need to tell your GFif she wants to actually have a grown up relationship she is gonna have to grow up and get away from her mom, tell her she is gonna have to get her mommy to pay her way thru college if she can have respect for how much you do for her! It seems like you have your **** together pretty well so either get away from mom and live a happy life or stick wit mom and live in misery and putting your child thru  it too. Talk to the GF if she  dont grow up let her go!! Remember this..." growing old is mandatory, Growing up is optional"

Answer 8

Thats a tough situation, first thing (in my opinion) is you probably should have investigated her mom and how you react to her BEFORE you had a baby and moved in with her.

You do need to get out of the house, but you can't get an order of protection against somebody that you are staying with, and if you tried to file for one it would look rather funny.

My recommendation is to move out as quick as you can.. if your girl doesn't understand (or care) that what her mother is doing can end up being traumatizing to you and your child then maybe she needs some help to  understand.

I understand that she wants to be close to her mother, but there is no reason that you can't move (at least) a couple blocks away so she can still go visit when she wants, but so her mom isn't so deep into your business..

These are just my thoughts on it though... Good luck and keep that baby safe!!!

Answer 9

You need to move out and hire a lawyer and not give your girlfriend any money until required to do so my the Court, which will take a lot of time because you were not married when you had the child and paternity will need to established...that may encourage her to want to move out to be with you instead of stay at her mother's place.  She may have to drop out of school and get a job if her mother makes her pay rent or refuses to babysit.

Filing a protection order will result in the same situation, as you live with the mother, it is now your place, except you will not be allowed within 1000 feet of the Mother's property, as the order applied to you also, and you will be at your girlfriend or her mother's wim on seeing the child until paternity and custody arrangements are established.  

If you feel your child is in danger, you should report the matter to CPS, but keep in mind, this will alienate you from your girlfriend and the child even more.

Answer 10

I have two words for that woman. Jerry Springer. Take your baby, get a protective order, and get out. If your gf wants to come, she can. Your child doesn't need to grow up in a home like that.

Answer 11

You guys need to find your own place. If you are worried about the safety of your child and are grown up enough to have a family of your own, you should try getting your own place. You can't get an order of protection from someone who owns the place you live in. They would tell you to move out or find another place to stay.  

Answer 12

i think that  you in a bad situation u need to tell your girl yall need to move out because you can't leave with sombody that pulled a gun on u did u call the police ?? usound like u have your **** stright u need to leave ,U A GROWN MAN!!

Answer 13

I think you should explain to your GF, that you want to raise your children with her, and not her mother....you're not dating her mother.  Explain to her, that your chances of making it together remain low as long as you both live with her mother.

If she pulled a gun on you, why didn't you have her arrested ?

I don't think you'll get her "out of the picture" so long as you live under her roof.

The solution to your problem lies in getting your own place....like now..not a month from now..

Make it happen, no excuses.... man-up !

Answer 14

Your girlfriend has to come to a compromise, especially if your child is put into danger. I would've called the police on her as soon as she pulled that gun!!! Something like that would give you a good result for a court order protection for you and your child. You cannot give a baby peanut butter.... I would definitely look into a restraining order because she could have sriously injured your child. Get away from her!...Good luck!! Move OUT!!!!

Answer 15

If your girlfriend's mother owns the property, an order of protection will only make it necessary for you to move out.  Either way, it really sounds like things aren't going well there and you may want to consider finding a new place for you, your girlfriend and your child to live.  As far as what to do about your kid - are you meaning when she gave your kid peanut butter?  Since there was no harm to the child, there's nothing you can really do other than ensure that doesn't happen again by taking the child elsewhere for child care.  

Answer 16

talk to ur gf, then get the police

Answer 17

You can certainly file a police report against her for pulling a gun on you.  Most likely, though, she will be arrested and get out on bail until a hearing.  It is not going to get her "out of the picture".

Really, the only thing you can do is move out!  You are grown ups, now.  Her making you do work in lieu of rent is not inappropriate at all.  Would you rather pay her rent money?  Or do you think you should just get a free ride?

I would most certainly set my foot down about feeding the baby peanut butter (not only is it a danger for allergies, but also for choking) and she should definitely not pull a weapon on you (unless it was in defense).

I suggest moving out, with your baby and girlfriend of course.  If you want to remove the baby without his mother (gosh, that is sad) then you can first file a police report about the gun incident and get a restraining order.  Then, you can file for an emergency protective order at your local family court, giving you temporary physical custody until a hearing.  I am not sure they will grant it to you if you are not on the birth certificate, and/or you have no place to live and no childcare for the baby arranged but you can try.

I hope everything works out for the best, for the baby.