What do i do about my twin sister?

Question

i only have one best friend and she doesnt have a best friend but she has more close friends than me. my bff and i have been best friends since 2nd grade. so we are very very close. my sister tricia hasnt been our best friend but lately we have been including her and hanging out with her too. but every time my friend leaves tricia says i never include her and ditch her but she literally puts herself in situatinos where it looks like i do these things but really dont mean to. like i had guys over the other day and tricia just sat there not saying anything (then said i wasnt including her but i cant force her to talk if she doesnt want to) then we went swimming and played chicken fights haha and my sister hurt her shoulder and was complainging about not being able to really swim then said i was leaving her out when we were swimming but its not my fault she can swim i cant control her actions and then my parents side with her sayingi need to include her mom but you guys need to understand that we are merely twins. we never get along and just because were twins doenst mean we have this special unbreakable bond. thats not true at all and unless youre a twin then you wouldnt really understnd (not to be mean, really) i do include my sister but sometimes i would rather not tell her certain things that i tell my friends. some things you dont tell family like im sure you act differently around your friends than you do around your family. well being a twin is the same thing but a little more relaxed. what do i do about this? how do i handle this situation? she gets me in trouble with my parents all the time by making it look like im ditching her what do i do?

Answer 1

I'm not a twin but I do have a sibling and while there is an unbreakable bond between us we don't always do everything together.  It's natural for siblings to disagree and go their own way.  Maybe you should write down your feelings and slip the letter under her door?  Tell her how you try your best to include her but sometimes you need to do your own thing.

Answer 2

k so im a twin too so i sorta know what your going through except im more like your sister (the one who gets left out) im not really sure how to make your situation better but i think that from your point of view you arent doing anything wrong but maybe you really are sorta ditching her like my sister will be with me but she has all the friends with her and half the time there talking about me so im with them but there sorta ditching ahh sorry if i didnt help!