What do i do from here? Why is it so difficult? ((i need a female opinion))?

Question

Ok.. here is my story... roughly.. 8 months ago, me and my girlfriend broke up... we were together for a year and a half (i know.. its not that long, but it meant alot to me), and yea, its been 8 months... and this sting is still kinda there, sometimes i get depressed because i see something that reminds me of her, or sometimes is might be a song we both used to like... but yea, on the other hand... when we were together she was completely controlling... she wouldnt let me talk to like any girls, she got mad and didnt trust me... so i know it wasnt the greatest relationship on earth... but when it was good it was really good and i was happy... now that she is gone, idk what to do... she tore me away from my best friend, and basically all my friends.. i have nearly nothing left. and my old best friend doesnt even hardly talk to me anymore, even though i try and stay in contact with him.. i just... idk what to do from here, my heart still hurts, and i just feel so alone in this world... somebody, anybody... i need advice

Nextly.. i wanna know something... how come most girls go for the jerk? they always seem to push aside the nice guy... i mean, i don't mean to toot my own horn, but i take shifts for ppl that want a day off at work... I go on yahoo answers to help other ppl... i write poetry... i don't really have a problem with lifting a finger to help somebody... and yet.. they go for the guy that doesnt give two s***s about the world, and they end up miserable, and then they say "where are all the nice guys"... it just doesnt make sense to me... i aint the best lookin guy, and im a lil on the heavier side, but... i could treat a girl better than most other guys out there... please how can it be so difficult....

any help or advice would be appreciated... and hey to anybody that is gonna just say rude stuff, go die, and leave me alone

Answer 1

I think u should just move on and forget about her, it's going to take some time, but be patient. And Idk y girls go for the jerks, I know I don't.

Answer 2

Sometimes its better for women to experience what a jerk feels like so theyll know what a good guy feels like when they get one. It will take time to get over her so for now DONT contact her and just try your best to move on over time she wont even matter to you. theres some other girl out there who will appreciate you so dont beat yourself up about her. goodie luck kiddo!  

Answer 3

Do you know whats wrong with you, you are too flipping nice, some girls dont realise until they have lost the best guy in the world, then its too late. You see, with some women, they always like the guy that plays hard to get, its a challenge with them, they will do anything to get that guy.Then usually the guy turns out to be an a....... , then its too late the girls gone and fallen for him.But with guys like you, well, your are not a challenge, I dont mean for you to go acting the hardnut, and being bolshy, not by any means,But maybe you are being too much of a pushover, dont try so hard, and maybe she will come back to you.See what happens, when she sees another girl on your arm, bet you that will make her think twice. I wish you all the luck Mr Lovely man.(Im a female by the way).

Answer 4

We like jerks because they are usually cooler.The ones who will beat up anybody for anything and will hold you but we dont like guys who will watch chick flicks and poetry.(No offence to you)Girls like boys who are dangerous and mysterious.

Answer 5

NO, we do not like jerks because they are "cooler" thats stupid..

And yeah, girls like something that they can "chase", if its to easy we kind of get almost bored. She hasnt realized what she lost and thats her loss- you will find another girl and when you do you will tell yourself "what was i thinking" when you look back on this girl. Girls love guys that are nice, trust me i would know. [im a girl] lol But its different when they seem too nice, and sometimes it seems to good to be true also. Just keep your head up

Take care