What do i do if i dont like the gift?

Question

so, i know this isnt about 'gender and women studies' but i really need an adult with children's point of view on this becuase i am not sure what to do.

Well..

Im 13 and my parents just bought me a coach purse for getting good grades, i dont really like it, but i dont know what i should do.

My brother had to go to church camp on saturday [it is like an hour away]and when they droped him off, they got me this purse at the coach outlet. They gave it to me and i told them i really liked it and thanked them alot. Also, i am going with my mom to pick my brother up tomorow from camp and i could ask her if we can go to the outlet and exchange it, but they said they were 'very limited' to which one to get because there wasnt that much selectoin in thier price range. so, i dont know if we go back and then dont find anything i want, will she be mad? Would she rather have me tell her i dont like it and try to find one i like, or should i just keep it becuase it was really nice of her to do?

Answer 1

try the "etiquette" section next time.

Answer 2

This calls for re-gifting.

Answer 3

What's a coach purse?

Whatever it is, it's better than nothing and if yu don't like it you can re-gift it as the first answer suggested.

Answer 4

My mother got me this "sweater set" when I was about 14 and I did not like it.    I kept it only wore it because I had to.   When I went off to college I figured I could find someone to give it to.  Time went on and my tastes changed.   I had that set for about 15 -18 years, it finally fell apart- it turned out to be a classic and I loved it.

You may actually regret not keeping this purse.

Answer 5

That is an excellent question from a thoughtful young lady who cares about her parent's feelings.  My own daughter is 15 and I'm sure I've given her stuff she didn't like and she has not always been able to hide her feelings.  As a parent you do feel bad if you give a gift you thought was nice and the person receiving it doesn't like it.

I know this is hard but if you think you can do it, I suggest you keep the purse and say nothing but thank you.  You'll know you made a sacrifice to make your parents fell good and when you look back on it later, long after the purse is gone or out of style,  you'll feel very good about that.

Answer 6

I agree with the answerers who said to keep it. All you need to do it set it aside for a while and only use it occasionally. Your tastes could change as you get older and you might regret giving up that purse. I'm in my late 40s and my tastes now aren't the same as they were when I was 13.

Answer 7

Keep it.  Be gracious.  Coach is pricey, and you may find your tastes change in a year or so.  Put it away and take it out again in a couple of years.  

I'm impressed at how mature you seem to be for a 13 year old.  Good for you!

Answer 8

I think that you should tell them that you really love that they got you a great gift, but that really it isn't exactly your style and that you don't want to keep something that cost them so much money and not actually use it. Tell them that you would rather return it and get a less expensive gift that you would use more.

Sounds like you have great parents!