What do i do if my boyfriend his abusing meth/ and i am trying to keep him out of jail?

Question

I am not trying to lose him. i do love him dispite his addition, but i also know that iam being an enabler for him. because he'll go away for awhile and then come back when he needs something done. and I do it. but, more so this last weekend scared me, being told that he was locked up and all the harmful things he has been doing to hisself. when he first came home he was doing good, now, i know it doesn't take much for a person to return to whats comfortble to them. but, We can't help but to believe that there was some factor that pushed him that way. Or maybe as his probation officer says: he just wasn't ready! I don't beleive that. I don't blame myself, but he has a low self-esteem, very insercure, jealous, non-trusting. but, i feel bad, because i have giving him money in the past. i find myself telling him if he has a bill i will pay it, but, won't put the money in his hand. for the most part he isn't violate with me, as he is with the other females he's around. I'm seeking help.

Answer 1

the sad truth here is that you must walk-away and lead your own life. be proud of the good and generous person that you are, and don't look back.

this very bad situation is completely beyond your control ... and you really know this already from the history of your relationship.

be gentle, but close the door on this situation.

a great life will find you ... because you deserve to have one

Answer 2

He doesn't need help, you do. He's already a lost cause.

You need to seek counseling of some type to help you understand why you would seek an abusive relationship.

If he is violent with others, he'll end up being violent with you... maybe fatally.

Please, Please, Please... take the steps to get out of this type relationship.

Answer 3

Leave him. If he doesn't want to help himself, then he has no future except the downward spiral that follows all major drug addiction.

Answer 4

You really only have a couple options, You need to do an intervention as well as stop paying his bills cause that's still enabling him, During the intervention, you can only give him one option, Go to a clinic and finish the program or you and everyone who loves him won't be there for him, on any level, that means drop him completely don't fold, if you love him sometimes you have to let the ones you love go.

Answer 5

Do what you Know is right and that is law down the ground rules and tell him to get to rehab

You can also start finding a support group for relatives and loved ones of addicts. You can also attend NA meetings with him if they are open meetings.

Giving him money and bailing him out is only helping him die in the end and possibly spend time in jail in the meantime

If you truly love him you will do the right thing and sit him down and give him the new rules

If he is not happy or tries to play you or tries to play the i am leaving you do not love me c**p Tell him you know that all that talk is his addiction and someday you pray he will be without the drugs and see just how much you truly love him and you pray it is not too late.

My email is in my profile Feel free to email me.

I have many years clean and lost many dear friend to death and prison.

I am one of the few of us left and well if I can share anything to help I am more than happy to pass on help to see another. addict get clean.

i do not want to get to personal but believe me I can relate

Answer 6

If he is violent with other females it is only a matter of time before he targets you. That is just a simple fact. As for the meth, there is not much shy of an intervention that you can really do to help him. Being a former addict myself I can tell you that many people tried to help me many times but until I decided it was time, nothing helped. I just continued using people, especially the women I was with all the while telling them how sorry I was for taking all their money but how much I really loved them.

If you really a serious about helping him, get him out of your life and cut off all the help. The only thing you are doing right now is making him a better and more successful addict. I am sure that he thanks you but you have probably given up your life to do so.

Walk away and don't look back.

Answer 7

youshould host an intervention and get him into rehab,

Answer 8

Leave him now and save yourself.

Answer 9

First off- If he is violent with other females it is only a matter of time before he targets you. That is just a simple fact. As for the meth, there is not much shy of an intervention that you can really do to help him. Being a former addict myself I can tell you that many people tried to help me many times but until I decided it was time, nothing helped. I just continued using people, especially the women I was with all the while telling them how sorry I was for taking all their money but how much I really loved them.

If you really a serious about helping him, get him out of your life and cut off all the help. The only thing you are doing right now is making him a better and more successful addict. I am sure that he thanks you but you have probably given up your life to do so.

Walk away and don't look back.