What do i do if my parents catch me having s*x?

Question

my father just caught me and my girlfriend and i dont know what to do. we are both 18 and were using protection but he is very stubborn and i dont know what to say to him

Answer 1

rent a hotel or do it in your car? Make sure he doesn't take it out on your girlfriend stand up for yourselves. You let parents continue to treat you like a child they will but be respectful of course. My exes parents hated me for that reason. It felt like no matter what I did I couldn't fix it and I'd never be good enough. They complitly stopped trusting me. All judgment went on me not there son. It hurt me a lot and ended up ruining our relationship. Just try not to let judgment pass I'm sure your father had s*x before marriage?

Answer 2

Well, I'm not going to suggest you move out.  You're absolutely right when you say that that's ridiculous.  

However, you are an adult now and you can have s*x whenever you want.  It's none of his business.  I know it's going to be awkward, but I wouldn't say anything about it.  Drop the subject.  At 18, you are legally able to make your own decisions about life in general and s*x.  

Be mature about it and just drop the subject.

Answer 3

You don't do it?

Answer 4

your father could not have caught you if you did not live at home.

stop using the "im 18 year old' as if that is an excuse to be able to do things..  

tell him 'dad I have decided to move out and pay my own way"..

Answer 5

You should have just gave him the thumbs up and waved to him and just kept on going.

Answer 6

Well, it was rude to have s*x in your parent's home if you know how they feel about it.  If you are still living at home, and your parents are paying for your room, board and education, then you are still a "dependent".  It's not a question of his being stubborn.  It's a question of respect on your part.  If you cannot respect their rules, then you are free to move out -- and do without their support.  It's up to you.

As far as what to say to him, the ADULT thing would be to apologize.  How about, "I'm very sorry, it was very wrong of us to use your home to engage in activity that I know you don't approve of."  The kid's way out would be to skulk around like a whipped dog and hope he doesn't say anything.  Better, in the long run, for you both to acknowledge what happened and clear the air.  It's a sure bet that neither of you are going to forget it, that's for sure!

Answer 7

uhmmm  u should talk to him && tell him ur a man && u have your nesseceties ...

  just like he did

oh n get a lock lol

<3

Answer 8

are there any rules in your house about having s*x?

if not-

well.

treat him normally.

if there are then you owe a big apology for breaking the rules.

Answer 9

so I don't get it will he be upset because it's his house or because your not married?  just tell him your sorry.

Answer 10

It is not IF your parents caught you.  Your Dad did catch you.

Tell him, "I know I was wrong in having her over at the house.  I won't do it again."

That is what a grown up of 18 does.

It is his house, his rules, you blew it even though you are 18.  Suck it up.  and try to find other places for your activities.

Answer 11

well your 18 so your dad has no say so but your living in his house and you have to respect his wishes. so i advice moving out and respecting your father.

Answer 12

Well yes you are 18. You could move out or if you wanna stay. Make sure you don't get caught. Do it in a hotel or in a car.

Answer 13

Make him an offer....... Share your girlfriend.....

Answer 14

It's likely that your dad's just playing the role of Outraged Parent.  Inwardly he's probably delighted to see that you're straight rather than s*****e.  So say nothing and hold your head high.  Carry on, citizen.

Answer 15

Confront him about catching him with p**n and blackmail him.

Answer 16

Apologize and move on.  Thank you and good day.

Answer 17

Wow..that sucks...anyway..don't say anything until he say something to you about it...if he doesn't, don't ever bring it up again...did he walk in your room? was the door closed? how did that happen? basically chill out...

Answer 18

HOW EMBARASSING!  I WOULD HAVE CRAPPED MY PANTS....BUT THE TWO OF YOU SHOULD BE MORE CAUTIOUS IF YOUR STILL LIVING UNDER YOUR PARENTS ROOF AND HAVING s*x....

Answer 19

Move out. You can support one person on $10 an hour if you don't spend like an idiot.

Either that, or stop having s*x in your parents' house. Don't disrespect their rules. Sorry.

Answer 20

have a go at him for not respecting your privacy.

he should have knocked.

probably wont work though tbh.

just have a free house next time.

Answer 21

Be prepared for the "not under my roof" speech,

Really you are an adult and have human needs, I think you did nothing wrong. (And good for you for using protection). But your parents don't need to know about that part of your life. It doesn't have to happen under their noses. I mean, you don't want to know about your parents s*x life either right?

Maybe you should just find another place to do your deed.

Ok you want to know what to say? Say nothing unless he brings it up. If he brings it up, smile really really big, and say "well dad, at least I'm not g*y."

Or try the serious approach and say you love her.

Then just don't say anything else. Like I said. He doesn't need to know.

Answer 22

You're 18, move out.

Answer 23

Don't do it until you move out.

Answer 24

Despite the fact that you're 18, you are in your parents' home and need to respect their rules. If moving out is not an option, then either refrain from s*x or find somewhere else to do it.

Answer 25

well if you're 18 your old enough for s*x. so maybe talk to him and move out!