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What do i do my boyfriend wants to get married in a drive thru in vegas?

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we have been together for 4 yr and have 2 kids together. so we have been talking about getting married and he wants to go to vegas drive- thru. but i want a wedding and have a party. with all my family and friends. i wanna wear a wedding dress and feel special and be by my loved ones. how do i make him understand??

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  1. he's most likely not wanting to spend a lot of money on a wedding that he feels is already in place.  the vegas drive thru is a fun way for him to get the marriage license and have a mini get away from the kids (if that's how he wants it).  if you are wanting to wear a wedding dress, buy one and wear it through the drive through.  if you really want the wedding and have a party, realize you can do it without blowing the bank.  let him have his enjoyment at the drive thru on agreement that you can also have your wishes.  set a budget and keep to it.  we had a limited budget of $3000 (including my wedding dress) and we only spent $2500 and had almost 100 people.  it is possible to have a gorgeous wedding without spending a lot.  negotiate negotiate negotiate.  ask your parents if they are willing to chip in to help out.  don't pressure your parents to do so if they can't afford to help, but most likely they will want to help in some way.  you can do a justice of the peace wedding and then throw a small reception.


  2. If you two are this far apart -- and completely inflexible -- on something like this, I'd seriously recommend some couples counseling (and maybe rethinking the whole marriage thing).

    I'm with you...you should have a day to remember, even if it's a small affair.  A drive-through wedding is the height of cheese...and you can tell him I said so!

  3. try to relate to him...my fiance wanted to get married in the town hall and i agreed with him then one day i woke up and reliezed i want to have "my day", or our day whatever lol.  I also have a child with my fiance and we have been together for 3 years, i just think that my man was so used to being with me that maybe he didnt think that we needed to show everyone a ceremony like i wanted.  Just sit him down and tell him that it is really important to you and maybe even compromise and do both!

  4. He should be understanding of what you want, and if this is something you feel strongly about you shouldn't sacrifice your "special day" for a cornball drive thru where your family can't take part (especially your children). Tell him you'll do all the planning and all he has to do is show up. Best of luck with everything:-)

  5. Try to compromise. Go ahead and have the drive-through wedding with the dress and everything, then have a party with all of your friends and family afterwards.

  6. hi there - you can have a Las Vegas wedding that is special and romantic - it's not all drive-thru chapels. I got married at the Bellagio Hotel on a balcony overlooking their lake, and the fountains play for you at the end of the wedding. There's also some very pretty chapels - Little Chapel of the Flowers and Little Church of the West are both lovely. The website below will let you browse the options if you're interested.

    Hope you sort it out - good luck.

  7. guys don't like all the fuss that comes with weddings, but let him know how you feel about it and how important it is to you

  8. how about both?  The vegas drive thru

    then come home and have a party, wear the dress and have everyone celebrate with you!

  9. get fries with that

  10. I would say " Honey, I want my wedding to be special and beautiful. It would be the wedding everyone talked about in a good way. A vegas drive thru would humilate me. Please" Good luck

  11. If he doesn't respect your wishes enough to compromise, then maybe you shouldn't marry him.

    Tell him that you only want a handful of friends and just your parents, siblings, & grandparents.

    You can just have a cookout and a justice of the peace!

  12. It seems that money may not be the issue; rather a difference of opinion in what is 'fun and exciting'. Is it possible to do both? Sort of elope with just the two of you to the drive-thru (in your big, bad dress) and then return 'home' and have a party with your friends and family (again, in your big, bad dress)?

  13. well you can always marry him like that, and have a big wedding like you want on you anniversary and make it more special

  14. I'd suggest you consider a compromise with him.

    You want to feel special.  And it sounds like he wants to save money and avoid all the time spent on elaborate planning, etc.

    Granted, you ought to have the right to make it something special to you, but by the same token let's face it, you've already had 2 kids together.  People already view you as "de facto" married anyway.

    So if I were you I'd be willing to consider having a small ceremony and small, intimate wedding party without all the bells and whistles.  You can still wear a wedding dress that way, and you can still have your loved ones celebrate it with you.

  15. i think he is just saying that because he doesnt want to go through the "hassle" of planning a wedding. just tell him that you arent going through a drive-thru and thats that

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