What do i do ... please help!

Question

my fiance and I have had an AMAZING relationship we have never had a fight and we just found out she is 4 months pregnant, tho we had been talking about a baby there are some issues as to timing and it upset her, 2 days later she was acting kinda mad at me so i took her to the bedroom to talk to me. there she said she was scared confused and didn't know what was going on. then she said that lately she hadn't liked me touching her or kissing her or anything like that. then she said she was starting to think she doesn't love me, she then asked me to leave, well i had no place to go so i went to stay with my mom 6 hours away, that was a week ago i just go back to town close to her and i am staying with a friend so i can try to fix this but she isn't calling me she hasn't sent any kind of message or anything and i am really upset about this, she asked for space and i don't want to crowd her but on the other hand i really really don't want to just let go and let her drift away from me or think i am not trying. please help me....

Answer 1

Well you should have a chat with her.Those are normal emotions of being pregnant. In fact I felt like that with my husband and I sent him away for a month at the time. It goes away after a while but it is anxiety and sometimes everything that goes on in your head when it is your first pregnancy.Things such as being scared and fearing the future and what might happen.

You should just try to be there for her all the time and support her and show her that you love her. Keep the communication going that is all that will help this along.

Good luck

Answer 2

ouch! i'm sorry to hear that, there's not much you can do really i would let her no your back in the area and that your there for her whatever choice she makes. it sound like getting pregnant has freaked her out and the only she can see out of it is to end your relationship,try to talk to her because if she is keeping the baby you have rights and you have given her space by going away for the week, if she has decided not to keep it try to tell her shes not alone and you will support her no matter what. i hate to say it but sometimes relationships can't last past abortion as you will be a constant reminder.

i really hope you can work it out and wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 3

Why don't you go see her and get her to talk to you! It may just be that she is nervous.

Answer 4

wow this is a sad story... i really feel for you even though i am a women.  most times i hear about how the dad wants nothing to do with the mother when an unexpected pregnancy occurs.  you need to do something though, if you want to be there then this is your baby to and you have a right to be there and know what is going on with the baby.  now as for her this is most likely coming from just hormones and the being scared. things are probely just moving a little fast for her right now and she is not dealing with her feelings properly and you are the closest thing for her to take them out on.  just keep trying and peusueing what you want.  if is meant to be it will happen if not then you need to do what you have to for your child and just move on, i know that is harder said then done however if she is not happy with you then you can't be happy with her and that is not a good relationship to raise a child in...  

Answer 5

GIVE HER TIME. ALL PREGNANT PEOPLE HAVE THEIR CRAZY WAYS. SHE JUST NEEDS A LITTLE SPACE. JUST REASSURE HER THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU; DON'T BREAK TIES. WHEN THE BABY COMES THE STORY WILL CHANGE..YOU JUST WAIT AND SEE. IT IS UP TO YOU TO BE INVOLVED.  IF THIS CONTINUES AFTER THE BIRTH THEN IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO STAY INVOLVED IN EVERY WAY POSSIB;E...NOT TO SOUND MEAN BUT COULD THIS BE ANOTHER GUY'S BABY?  

Answer 6

Its possible that the baby might not be yours and she is ashamed

Answer 7

its just the hormones. i member when i was pregnant i couldnt stand for my fiance to hug me!! i didnt even wanna be near him alot of the times. it is most likely the hormones or sometimes they can be upset with you because they are feeling horrible and feel like you are the one who did it to them!! doents mean she loves you any less! just stay supportive and it will pass my dear

Answer 8

Go to her and let her know that you love her and want to be involved in the child's life. You have a right as a father to know whats happening with your child.  

Answer 9

I think if she wants space the best thing you can do is give her it. If your worried about her drifting away from you, maybe send her a letter or a text or something just to let her know your worrying about her and you here ready for her whenever she needs you. Tell her she doesnt have to reply and you hope thats she's ok and well. It can be a really confusing time fro women when they find out there pregnant, and when i found out i was pregnant i felt funny about being touched and kissed etc. it just really irritated me. Hormones are everywhere and the tiniest thing can be soo irritating and annoying.

I know its really hard and you must be going through h**l worrying, especially when you love someone, but trust me things will become clear eventually and she'll find out what it is she wants, and sort her head out, and you never know the two of you might have a very happy future ahead of you

i really hope it works out x x

Answer 10

she has a lot of thins to think about and her hormones are sky high! it isn't uncommon for a pregnant lady to not want her b/f or husband to touch her!

however have you thought that the reason she isn't calling is that she is waiting for you to make the first move?

maybe she thinks that you may not stick around once the baby is born and she has some thinking to do?

try going to her house and take some flowers or a teddy for the baby and try and talk to her!

dont push her is she doesn't want to if its space she wants then give her some! most importantly support her, let her know you are there if she wants to talk and that you want to be a responsible father to your baby!

Answer 11

check up on her sometimes. she is probably just shooken up obout the baby. and when she has the baby, offer to still be with her. make it clear that you will be with her through thick and then. and if she starts dating, i would still hang around a little, but not for that long.  but keep her numbers and stuff so that you guys can still be in touch, an x can also be a friend after the brake up.

Answer 12

Well, when a woman find out their oregnant hormones start flying. It more than likely has nothing to do with you. Unfortunently she is taking it out on you.  She must be having her own personal issues that she needs to deal with. She can't love, or be with or make someone else happy if she isn't doing that for herself first. I would call her but not 15 times a day maybe in the morning or evening and if she doesn't answer don't beg on her machine just let her know your thinking about her and miss and and tell her to call when she is ready. If she loved you she isn't going to let you go that easy. Good luck and i pray that things will go your way.