What do i do? really bad dad

Question

me and my ex split up a few months ago when he left me for someone else, we have an 18 month old son and im 18 weeks pregnant with his second child, he has also lied to new girlfriend about not seeing/sleeping with me for months when we was doing right up until the point when i found out about her, i guess he knows there is no chance of getting back with me (which he is well aware of, i would never take him back, ever!) so he had to make me out to be the liar (even to my face) to keep the other one! he has never been a good dad, never changed diaper once, never fed or made bottles, never got up in night, basically nothing, he has a really well paid job (but self employed so i dont think he declairs it all) he earns about £1000 a week and has never given me a penny or bought anything for our son, he never wants to see him now, only sees him for about an hour every 2 weeks, he says he cant cope with him for longer than this but its obvious he just doesnt want to, he is not interested in new pregnancy at all, i have fallen out of love with him completely and now cant believe i ever put up with it, the only thing im worried about is my kids missing out on a dad, it would be good to hear from other people in this situation on how things worked out and any advise would be great, iv also had to move back in with my parents as he kicked me out and now he says that our house (which is a joint mortgage) is his now as i havnt paid any of the mortgage since i left, i cant afford a soliciter and dont know what route to go down or if he is entitled to the house as long as i dont pay anything?? so any advise on this also would be great! il just mention that i live in uk

Answer 1

You need to try to get child support out if him

But that's such an a*****e move and I'm so sorry you had to deal with him.

Sometimes we are just blind with what's right in front of us. And by the time we realize it it's to late to even really do anything about it.

He's an a*****e.

And now that you have kids with him it's going to be hard to get away from him but then again he doesn't even want to be around his own kid.

I would try to get money out of him because no one should leave their family high and dry

Answer 2

living without a dad isnt that bad. there are many many different types of families. But i say its harder to live without him especially if your new baby is a son too. I say either get back with him if you even can or find a new man so your children arent fatherless forever.  

Answer 3

take him to court to get your child support and continue your life in a positive manner....i would suggest going to church and learning basic moral principals to live by to teach your children and benefit from...

Answer 4

There are no words to describe on how I feel about this dirtbag. He dosnt deserve to suck in the air he is breathing.. he is a lowlife looser who has just lost his family and has yet to find out hes digging his own hole.. In the end.. your going to get what you need and deserve.. Your strong, your better then him, but he wont see that from his whole he will be living in.. Hes the poorest excuse for a human being. I wish you every ounce of luck in this.. stay strong and dont ever go back to his sorry ***.. he dosnt deserve you.. he dosnt deserve anything but the pain of a asswhoopin that he cant get up from. Please keep me posted on you and the kids..  

Answer 5

wow! been there, done that, cant believe that it sounds so much like my story!  I was 5 months preg with my 2nd son when i found out my hubby was cheating on me with a good friend.  just remember that SHE will soon find out that hes a cheat and a lier too, as for not having a dad, BS!  If hes that way the kids r better off without him!  mine r!  Now after 13 years  i have a new hubby(had for 3 yrs now) and hes good with the kids and a h**l of alot better role model for them han their real dad ever was.  Real dad is now in prison for molesting our oldest son!  Chin up girl!  you can do it and do it good alone!  Its not easy i know, i bought a house and raise 2 wonderful boys for 10 years on my own, dont give it and i promise it will all be fine!  hang in there!