What do i do- tired of living with MIL?

Question

my husband and i live with his mother, i have a 7 month baby, and my husband just seems to want to live here forever. i hate her, shes constantly trying to take over the parenting, tells me how to be a wife, talks **** about me to everyone. i am miserable. they have told me that i better not walk out the door with my daughter. im not leaving her.

Answer 1

Call their bluff.

Walk out.

Trust me. The cops and the courts will be on your side (unless you are CrAzY....)

Answer 2

Leave its not going to get better

Answer 3

Will your parents allow you to come home with the baby?

Unless your mamma's boy husband is going to grow a pair and move away from his mother and establish boundaries with her, you might be better off living apart from him.

Interfering in-laws cause more grief that what it's worth.

And if it's affecting you mentally, physically, and emotionally, then you really need to get out.

Go to your local family services and ask them for any kind of assistance. Even if it's counseling.

And maybe you can get yourself into some kind of trade school or college so you can become financially independent.

Then you won't have to worry about living with any relatives.

Answer 4

First of all why do you accept that kind of life from begin with?

You are as a mother, you take care of your own child and as a wife talk to your husband.

Let me whisper in your ear, husband and wife talk to make thing better. also call communication.

tell him what you like and what you don't like. Tell him what up set you and want you want to be change.

If communication is not going any where than just move out and rent an apartment. You should not live the child behind and it is his child too so you are not allow to move too far away. If he like to move in with you than it is find if not than just file divorced and let him have his visitation. Don't forget Gran ma have her right to visitation too.

Good luck with your decision

Answer 5

This wouldn't be a problem if you, your baby, and your husband moved out and started supporting yourselves.

Answer 6

What are you serious???? you should tell your MIL to butt out first of all if your Husband won't stand up to her he needs to grow a backbone and why would he get married and have a baby and live with his mother that is crazy unless he is a jobless mama's boy in that case girl take your baby and RUN if that is what you feel you need to do cause your mil is in waaaaay to much of your business and until you move out of her house that's just the way it's going to be she sounds like she needs a life or a man of her own.

Answer 7

This is not a healthy living arrangement for ANY of you. You need to start seriously saving every penny you can and get out of that house soon. Start looking at rent.com or similar websites to help aide you in finding an apartment. Your marriage will be in constant jeopardy if you continue to live there. You also need to relay your unhappiness to your hubby. As much as he may not want to hear it, he has to. Most men think their Mother's are perfect in every way possible, when in reality they try making the wife feel insignificant and less of a woman by putting down their skills (i.e. the way you cook, the way you care for your baby, etc...). It's the mother's way of lashing out because she feels she is no longer needed. Try not taking it personally, but in the mean time, save save save and get the h**l outta there! Good luck!!