What do i do? waht should i do? Why do i cant i cry or fell sad about this?

Question

My girlfriend recently broke up with me. I loved her soo much and still have that love for her. she came to my house and and told me she changed. i couldnt help but know that people dont stay the same forever, people change. i didnt shed a tear while she balled her eyes out. i tried my best not to think...about anything! but i couldnt help but think about how my plans were ruined. i had plans to get her a ring...i dont have a good job so i had to save my money up for while to get it and i was just shopping for it.it hurt (or should hurt) soooo much because we were about a month away from our anniversary and i was goin t get that ring promising i would love her to the end and then some...i even wrote her a song that i was planning to sing when i gave this to her...and trust me i am not one who does that kind of stuff especially in front of other people. i did my best not to think about it while leading her out the door..i never shed a tear even though i knew i lost something soo beautiful. after she left i kep my self occupied but dieting(or starving my self basically) and working out vigorously to keep her outta my mind, i even built a treehouse in my backyard for no reason to stray away from thinking of her. But there was aother feelingi had... i always wanted to join the air force and do something exciting like CSAR and/or pararescue...but i loved her and wanted to be her so i was goin to lean towars a job less dangerous...but now i cant help but feel like good that nothings holding me back from what i want to do. being honest i am happy so now she can go on with her life with out anything holding her back ... i hope the best for her and cant help but hope our paths leads back to each other when we are ready..yet after all thins i cant shed a tear and do not feel to sad about this. yet i know i loved and still do somewhat love her sooo much... she was soo good to me and was great with kids and was great with my family i mean theres nothing more i could ask for in a girl...she was perfect..yet i cant get my mind to realize that i lost somehtin that i may never find again...whats goin on? im sorry i just had to get this out

Answer 1

Shes a sunk cost. Tell her you dont want to contact her anymore. Best way to get over a heart break is get another girl.

Answer 2

AWWWWW! O MY GOD! THAT IS SO SAD U ALMOST MADE ME CRY! I'M HEAR FOR U!♥ I THINK YOU SHOULD TAKE THE JOB AS A CSAR I MEAN U HAVE NOTHING HOLDING U BACK AND IF YOU TWO ARE MENT TO B THEN SOONER OR LATER U WILL B BACK TOGETHER AND IF ITS NOT MENT TO B THEN UR TRUE LOVE WILL COME WHEN U LEAST EXPECT IT. =)  

Answer 3

i'm going through the same thing brother .. and i just want to let you know

that you are not alone ...

the only thing you can do is tell her that no matter what, you will always be there for her as her FRIEND .. as a shoulder to cry on and someone she can always come to when she has a problem ..

then after you tell her that, move on .. you don't have to immediately go looking for a replacement, but hang out with your friends more and just do stuff that you enjoy doing ..

i know if things are meant to be .. they are meant to be .. but you can't just sit down and wait for a miracle .. you have to work for everything you want .. so talk to her occasionally, to let her know that you are still here for her .

god bless you and good luck ..

-andre

Answer 4

Maybe you should ask yourself why you should feel sad about it?  It seems you're doing well =)