What do i do when my friends have moved on?

Question

so i worked at a very funky small restaurant for 10 months. everyone who works there is very cool and i consider my friends, but since i've been not working there anymore (going on a month and a half ago) they all seem to have forgotten about me. i still go in sometimes and i've hung out with a few of them regularly since not working there anymore... i guess what i'm feeling is that these people didn't consider me a friend but a coworker when i certainly considered them my friends. so it hurts, i go in and they almost act like they don't know who i am. i mean, they smile and say hello if i say hello first... i used to spend so much time with these people, do you think this is just that they've moved on or does it sound like maybe they're upset with me?

it just seems so... bizarre...please help!

Answer 1

I'm worried I'll be in the same boat. I've been working at a super center store for the past few months and a lot of the people that work there just started around the time I did. So we all learned the ropes together and grew close. We hang out after work a lot and go eat together and such but I am having to quit because I'm going to do full time school.

Now I know it won't be so bad that they "almost act like they don't know who i am", but I keep thinking I will be left out. It is making me reluctant to even quit and try to juggle full time school with a part-time job.

I think you said it best when it's like you are just a coworker and not a friend. You're there to get the job done together, and that relationship ends past that. I'm glad to know that the people I work with are more closely knit than that, but I don't know to what extent.

All I can say is to try and hang out with them, set things up and such. Otherwise, it may just be time for you to move on.  

Answer 2

they probably jus moved on and so should you. there just working the same way just that your not there no more so they probably forgot about you and moved on. i hope this helped.

Answer 3

Well at the restaurant where you worked proabbly many people come and go. Perhaps they just didn't let themselves get atttached to you as a friend. But more likely they just don't feel like you have that much in common since you quit working there. They may feel that as a friend rather than a coworker there is not many interests that you share. This will happen often as you change jobs so try to keep coworkers and friends a seperate kind of thing. Peace and Love!