What do i do with my girls?

Question

MY GIRLS ARE 4 AND 5....I AM PLANNING ON GETTING THEM THE BUNK BEDS THEY HAVE WANTED FOR OVER A YEAR NOW...HOWEVER I TOLD THEM THEY MUST CLEAN THEIR ROOMS IN ORDER TO GET THEM AND IT HAS BEEN 3 HOURS NOW AND ONLY THE 5 YEAR OLD HAS ATTEMPED TO CLEAN HERS....BUT IT TOOK ME ASKING AT LEAST 20 TIMES...AND TELLING HER I WOULD NOT GET THEM IF SHE DIDN'T DO IT..BUT THE 4 YEAR OLD HAS NOT DONE A THING. WHAT DO I DO??

GET THEM OR NOT??? I NEED TO PRAISE THE 5 YEAR OLD BUT NOT THE 4 YEAR OLD.....

Answer 1

do not get them. If your condition was that they clean their room, AND KEEP IT CLEAN, then you need to stick with it. Give in now, and you will give in next time, and next time etc. Cleaning the room for such a nice reward is very reasonable. Wait till they ask when they get them. Remind them of the deal, and leave it at that. Either they clean and get the new beds, or they don't and they keep their old beds, and you don't stress.

Good luck

by the way, if you ever figure out where God put the owners manual for kids, let the rest of us know OK? ;0)

Answer 2

Set a timer (give them enough time to get it cleaned up), and when that timer goes off, go in and check. Whatever is NOT clean, get a trash bag and start putting the toys in it. When they ask what you are doing, tell them that you are throwing their toys away because they cannot take care of them.

As far the bunk beds go, don't get them until they are BOTH cooperating. I am not real sure how you can praise one and not the other though. Maybe take the older one out for ice cream, or some type of treat to let her know that you are thankful.

Answer 3

well who's room are the beds going into. put them in the 5 year old's room then tell the 4 year old that she cant even go in there intill she finishes cleaning. and dont be a pushover. stick to you r word. if they are both getting their own set of bunkbeds then get both beds but dont let the 4 year old see that you got two, just one and then set that one up in the 5 year old's room and once the 4 year old sees it then it might motavate her. if she has a tantrum about it then explain to her that you will go back to the store and get her bed once her room is clean. and dont let her go into the 5 year old's room to see the bad agin because she might just stay in there. but never ever tease the 4 year old. like saying "wow this is such a nice bed" and stuff. that is just cruel.

I hope everything works!

Answer 4

Take the 5 year old out for ice cream and tell her thank you, but no bunk beds until both children cooperate.  May not seem fair, but that's the way things work in the real world and they might as well start learning it now.  If I do a great job on a project, but a co-worker messes up and the project goes bad we both get dinged.

Alternative 2 might be to get the beds, but only the 5 year old gets to sleep in them for the first week.  Then if after a week, the 4 year old is more cooperative, she gets to join her sister.

Next time, I personally wouldn't ask 20 times.  I would set a cut-off ... "room cleaned by the time daddy gets home" and then say nothing else.  If she doesn't do it, no reward.

Answer 5

they are young still.   But when mine got a little older and i asked them to clean the rooms, if they didn't  I went behind with a trash bag that night and put all the stuff  on the floor , into the bag.  I kept it and told them I tossed it.  It worked.  ( i did give it back eventually).    

Answer 6

Ok get them the bunk beds and if they both dont clean make them sleep in your room.

if one cleans give it to her only and keep the other with you

thats what my mom did to me wheni was 6.... :(

Answer 7

the bunk beds can wait another day or a week. I sure your excited to get it for them but, just explain to them that when they can clean their room that will show you that they are big girls and can get a bunk bed. Don't forget that your the parent and what you say goes. Kids are smart they will learn that they wont have to do what they are told to get what they want.

Answer 8

1st - TURN OFF THE CAPS - it is very annoying.

2nd - 4 and 5 years old is kinda young to be cleaning a room without help. Get up and clean the room with them.

3rd - Don't ask your child to do anything, tell them. Then punish if they don't.  If you are asking 20 times, when do you think they will take your seriously, the 21st time?

If they need bunk beds, then get them. But, do you feel they are old enough for bunk beds.  Do they behave themselves well enough and know the dangers of falling that having bunk beds is a safe idea?