What do i do with my grandparents?

Question

I'm going on a trip with my parents, my brother, and my dads parents to hawaii in two days and i'm really nervous. my grandparents haven't been in my life really all my life and I'm 13 now and i've only seen them once every year. but now they are trying to rekindle the relationship with my family. we haven't been close because they were really mean to my mom. And now i'm really nervous about vacationing with them for two weeks. they seem to be getting along well , my mom and them, but i don't know. How do i make it so this trip isn't a total disaster?

Answer 1

That happens with like, every family. Try to be friendly, but don't rub it in you're mom's face. Let her know you don't want problems with them because they're your grandparents. But if they start treating her badly again, drop it and ignore them for the rest of the trip. It seems childish, but that's what they get for mistreating their daughter-in-law.

Best wishes

Answer 2

   How is two weeks in Hawaii so depressing for a young lady like you, First grandparents are cool they will tell you all the dumb stuff your parents did when they were young.

   Second it's HAWAII beach parties , surfing, poi (well maybe not poi )

You will have fun work on your tan and get some laughs at your parents expense. Aloha

Answer 3

Take a notebook along and when you get stumped for something to do, ask them a question about family history.

They are the authorities on your family history and if you do not ask now then later, when you are older, it will have been lost.

This is an excellent time to pump them and they will enjoy reminiscing about the old days.

You may or may not enjoy this, but you will have madw a good impression on them, and made their time with you more enjoyable.

And I promise you when they are dead and buried, and your children ask you where they came from; you will be glad you have this journal.

Answer 4

WOW!

It's exactly the same for me!

Well, Don't worry, they won't argue unless

something is messed up on the trip

or if someone brings up why they were mad at each other...

I'm ur age too, and my mom used to be like SOOO

angry with my grandparents, so I wouldn't see them like ever...

But now my mom is living with them...which is good cause that means that they made ammends. Just don't worry about it ok? good...

Answer 5

just act like they have always been in your life. Interact and such. Maybe you could go to the beach or whatever, or go to the attractions of the area. My grandparents all live far away so i dont see them that much either so i know this stuff they really like it when you talk to them.

Answer 6

You don't, that's not your job. You are 13, your job is to have fun. The only way you can make sure that the trip isn't a disaster is to focus on having fun. What your grandparents do and say, and what your mom does and says are totally up to them, not you, you can't control them or keep them from fighting, but if they are trying to rekindle the relationship, they probably won't fight. Either way, it's your responsibility to try to have fun. Just remember that is what the vacation is for, and if everyone else forgets that it's their loss.

Answer 7

Hawaii? That's awesome, I'm from Oahu!

Well, just act yourself and respect them for 2 weeks. They may have been mean to your mother, but a lot of people that day and age were pretty nasty to their kids.

But hey, at least they're trying to make an effort! So don't let it go to waste and just try to enjoy yourself! Try not to think too much because it'll just make you see things that aren't really there, and stuff, you know?

Answer 8

First, don't let whatever was between your mom and them be your problem.  Ask them lots of questions.  They love that.  Stuff about what your mom or dad was like when they were young.  Ask what they were like when they were your age, what their first job was.  If they had pets. etc.  Take an interest.  Older ppl are really cool.

Answer 9

Try to focus on positive things.  Give your grandparents credit for at least trying to get past the bad feelings and wanting to "make it up" to your family.  It probably isn't all that easy for them.

Enjoy the good parts of your trip - Hawaii is fantastic!  Be there as best you can for your mom and dad.  They'll be glad if they see you're having a nice time.

Hopefully there is something about your grandparents you will find you can relate to, and like.  If there really isn't then just make the best of it and enjoy Hawaii...:)

Answer 10

Try and plan outings for your self to go and that way you will have little breaks from them.The rest of the holiday try and smile and bare it with them.Have a great time.