What do i do with my smart mouth 10 year old?

Question

My son is almost 10 years old and is constantly complaining and whining about everything. I dont know what is going on with him. He hasnt always been like this. i am always wrong and he is always right. Nothing is ever fair and he always says i am mean. what should i do

Answer 1

It's natural for kids to be rebellious as they get closer to those dreaded teen years. Don't let it break you; he needs to understand that you're still the boss. Don't be afraid to discipline your son; it isn't abuse if you spank him. Just don't punch him in the face or anything, you know?

Answer 2

First, realize that the problem started some long time ago.

Ask yourself:

  What kind of disrespectful words has he heard much of his

         life?

   Has he seen negative behaviors from the adults in his life?

   Has he been made to understand rules and

         responsibilities?

Then realize, it is time for "tough love".  

Start by calmly explaining that his behaviors are unacceptable, and starting right now, things have changed.

Tell him what your rules are.  Be specific. Write them down for hm.  

Explain that each and every infraction will be met with discipline:    canceled computer privileges,  taken away cell phone, I Pod, E -whatever, etc.

Stick to it !!!

A FAMILY IS NOT A DEMOCRACY

Answer 3

lemon pledge, Dust, i dust and that guy would have a fist fuill of lemon pledge in his mouth, if that was my son, i know how you feel, one time my son did that to me, and  I PUT HIM UP AGAINST THE WALL AND RIGHT UP TO HIS FACE AND TOLD HIM OFF AND YELLED AT HIM, RIGHT IN FRONT OF A COP, AND TOLD THE COP THE NEXT TIME HE DOES THIS TO ME YOU HAVE PERMISSION AND SO DOES THE HRS TO TAKE HIM IN, PUT HIM TO JAIL FOR THE NIGHT, WELL THAT NIGHT HE THOUGHT ABOUT IT, AND CALMED DOWN, AND WE MADE UP THEN LATER, BUT HE NEVER DONE IT AGAIN, AND HE IS 22 YEARS OLD, HE IS STILL SCARED, AND HE SWEARS HE WILL NEVER UNDERMINED ME AGAIN, OH YES, I GOT A COP OFF THE STREETS TOLD HIM WHAT I WAS GOING TO DO AND NEEDED HIM AS AN EYEWITNESS, AND LUCKLY I HAD A FRIEND WHO WORKED FOR THE STATE FOR ABUSED KIDS, AND CALLED HER, AND DID IT RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM, PUT HIM UP AGAINST THE WALL, AND TOLD TOLD HIM DONT YOU EVER TALK TO ME LIKE THAT EVER AGAIN, BECAUSE I KNOCK YOU SO HARD DOWN YOUR HEAD WILL SPIN

Answer 4

Someone beat me to it, I see. Wash his mouth out.

If it's not toxic, it's not abuse in my opinion. My oldest went through that phase last year ( at 7). I warned him the next time he did it, I'd wash his mouth out with soap. The next time I was at the health food store, I picked up a clear, unscented bar of glycerine soap and a toothbrush and put them in the medicine cabinet. Sure enough, he ran his mouth again and I wet the toothbrush, got some soap on it and scrubbed his tongue enough for him to get the taste of it.  We had another talk and needless to say, that was the end of that. Seriously. The soap sits on the shelf collecting dust for when my other two decide to test their limits.

Answer 5

slap his cheek

Answer 6

Take away his things and have him earn them back with good behavior and chores.

Answer 7

go to india and show him calcutta that will take care of him

Answer 8

I have a nine year old daughter that often gets in this mood.

Firstly, make sure that he gets some one on one time with you each week. Book him in on your calendar to do something with him, even if it is just a trip to the shops to buy ice cream. and don't feel like you need to use this time to "squeeze" information out of him. If he wants to talk about something that is on his mind he will.

Secondly, you can tell him what kind of behavior and attitude is acceptable in your house. Then, once he understands, if he comes out of his room with anything else, tell him. "take that attitude back to your room and come out when it is gone".

This week my daughter arrived home from school in a foul mood and with plenty of attitude. I said to her quite calmly but firmly, "Rebekah go back down the drive to the letter box and come back when you have gotten rid of that attitude. You are welcome in the house but that attitude isn't".

She came back in a minute or so later with this funny forced smile on her face and it made everyone laugh. If you are consistent the child will fall into line. But you need to let him know what your expectations are and then stick to them.

Answer 9

it is called puberty

DEAL WITH IT

dont worry its normal

Answer 10

spank, spank, spank

Answer 11

im like that, i have alot of hidden anger tho which helped make me the way i am today. maybe you could try and get to the bottom of why his acting this way by talking to him? if he doesnt wanna talk and carries on the way he is, just say if you carry on talking to me like that then you cant have this anymore (take away his tv or playstation whatever he values) that usually shuts me up lol i cant stand ANYONE touching my laptop, if they do i sink into depressive bordem lol

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Answer 12

Soap in the mouth then smack it out, and repeat.  He will learn, eventually

Answer 13

Tell him, "Come on! We're going shopping?"

He'll ask, "Where?"

Say, "The Mommy Store! We're going to buy you a new mommy!"

Answer 14

okay lady why did you say ur wrong and he's right that is the issue  nobody diciplines their children and yes soap and smacking hard is considered abuse but dicipline IS NOT!! so yeah that that

thats all

Answer 15

its just part of us growing up we all do it so get over it

Answer 16

Soap in the mouth!