What do i say to a friend who asked me"i'm broke, do i have to get you a wedding gift?"?

Question

What do i say to a friend who asked me"i'm broke, do i have to get you a wedding gift?"?

Answer 1

You shouldn't expect your guests to bring you a gift. Some people genuinely may not be able to afford a gift and that should't be a problem. Imagine how embarrassed you would feel if it were you. And your friend shouldn't miss the day because they didn't bring a gift. It should be an obligation.  

Answer 2

YOU SAY NO!

A wedding gift is just that A GIFT, not an obligation, A LOT of people are having money struggles and can't afford to offer a gift.

If they ask you if there is anything they can help you with then gift them a job, ask them to bake some cookie, something like that..

Answer 3

Say, you are my friend, i would just love it if you could show up, gifts are not important to me, you are  :)

Answer 4

YOUR SUPPORT SHOULD COUNT  

Answer 5

i think she/he is not really a good friend. for even asking such a question. You are not asking for a loan from them. This is a wedding. A celebration of your marriage.

There are some things you need you just do. And getting a gift or money to a friend on their wedding is just the RIGHT thing to do. It is symbol of your acceptance and happiness for you.

sorry had to rant..

say no you don't have to bring a gift but I would start distancing yourself from them. they sound like fair weather friend to me  

Answer 6

You say this:

"Your presence at our wedding and reception is the only gift we want. Thanks so much for being a part of our special day, and please don't worry about it."

Answer 7

na its ok tell them its the thought that counts

Answer 8

Say "Absolutely not!  I would love for you to be there and that's all I'm asking for."  If she's asking that because she feels guilty and is asking for a way to give a free gift, you can always ask for her help at the wedding, such as making sure each guest has a favor, answering your phone if people are lost, helping set up decorations or flowers, putting together favors/centerpieces, etc.

Answer 9

A gift should not be synonymous with obligation. Just tell your friend that her being there is the best gift of all. Isn't that what weddings are all about, having the people whom you care about witness the coming together of you and your spouse?

Answer 10

Tell them that the greatest gift they could give you is for them to be there to share your wedding day, if they want to get you something then that is totally up to them, the most important thing is that the special person in your life is there to share the moment where you promise to give your life to the one you love with all your heart.

Answer 11

Tell them that being at your wedding is all you ask.  

Answer 12

Just say that what you want most is to have them there to enjoy the day with you, and whatever they can afford to do is fine but there's no pressure, as long as your friend promises to have her butt on the dance floor for the entire reception and really help you celebrate.

Answer 13

You say no, you being there is enough.

a gift is not an obligation, it's a nice thing to do.

Why is it even a question??!!

Answer 14

I would say, "Oh, dear, I am so sorry that you are in such financial straights.  No, my dear friend.  You are one of my dearest friends, and I would just be charmed and honored if you attend my wedding and help me celebrate such a joyous occasion.  And, do bring a guest, please.  See you there.  Toodles."  But, that is just little ole me.