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What do i say to nice xboyfriend that found me on the internet? it's been 10 years.?

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saw my xboyfriends pic. on facebook. We have several mutual friends. I did not want to contact him because he's married w/kids. He and I were together for 8 years. Our relationship ended up abruptly and I always thought we would get back together again.

He befriended me on fb which suprised me. I sent him a little note of apology and congratulations. he responded and asked how I am. That he's always wondered how I am. Asked about my family and stuff. We haven't spoken in 10 years so there was a lot to fill in. I told him how I felt. I felt bad for pushing him away and that I was going through a depression. I told him I wished things were different. Gave him an outline and told him I havent' been doing well and have been stuck in abusive relationships. I've been single for a few years and can't even date. Said I'm scared it's too late for me with love and a family (i'm in my mid 30's/female) Told him good stuff too about work and travel and what my family has been doing and being in touch with other mutual friends.

He was/is a really good guy, honest and so on.

I'm all anxious about this and wish he would respond. I wrote back another short note of apology about bringing up the past and mentioned some cool stuff, to keep a happy dialogue going. And sent a silly beer application thingy.

I regret getting too heavy. It would be nice if we could be friendly aquaintences, just positive chit chat via fb. I'm not delusional about getting back together with him and I respect his marriage. I can see how his wife may not like the idea of him talking to me. I'm trying not to beat myself up for telling him too much. I'd like to apologize again for getting too deep and that he just caught me at a bad time. I feel really bad about it. I wish I could take back what i said but i can't. What do it do to create a light, friendly chit chat repor? What do i do?

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  1. 8 years is a long time, a relationship like that isnt easy to forget.

    Exsecially if you thought you would end up back together.

    Its sorta complicated because he is married, and unless your willing to make the small risk that you might ruin his marriage in soime small or large way, because you might end up having an affair(just saying please, i am not try to be rude) but you have to facew the facts.

    I would just stop talking to him, at least nothing more thatn chit chat, makes things less compliacted.

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