What do i tell my parents?

Question

ok i moved out my parents house in march this year and have only seen them 3 times since i left,me and my husband are trying for a baby and my parents think im young (im only 19) to get married or have babies.

what do i tell them that its my life what i do

Answer 1

Hey hun, Im 19 myself and I moved out of home in Jan 08. You have your whole life ahead of you and there is no rush to have a baby. My parents freaked out when i moved out, never mind if I got married and had a baby! they'd prob have a heartattack. lol. But thats parents for you hun, they worry alot about your wellbeing. Why do you see your parents so litte? Maybe if you and your husband spend more quality time with them, they will learn to repect you more and your relationship........then maybe think about bringing a life into the world at a later date......x

Answer 2

They will probably just be shocked but supportive of you. If they're anything like my mum, she would be thrilled really but would try to explain just how serious the situation is. At the end of the day, you're married and have your own house, babies are what naturally comes next. I think you sound mature enough to cope with this :)

Answer 3

You don't need to be any age to have children or be married , by the age of 19 i was married with a child. Ok so i didn't do things the right way (if there is a right way) . I was 16 when i caught pregnant yes i wanted him and yes i stayed with his dad but didn't marry him until i was sure about spending the rest of my life with him. Everyone supported our decisions and 16 happy years later we are still married so my advice to you is follow your heart convince your parents that it is a good idea and that you are ready to have a baby they should come round to your way of thinking and support you . good luck  

Answer 4

youve got your whole life with each other first. Also my mum had me when she was 19 and she said she regretted having me so young and not having a life first. the best age roughly to settle down and have a child in my opinion is mid 20s.  

Answer 5

as much as we hate to admit it, parents know best

maybe you should consider what they have to say, or at least hear them out, and visit them some more, they may agree with what you want to do

they just want whats best for you.

Answer 6

OK let's think

1. do you or your husbend have a stable job

2.  Are you ready? (up every night to feed change,ect.)

If you can't to either then wait.

If you are ready talk to your parents.  Tell them the facts and don't yell.

Answer 7

first thing they are right you are too young for a baby but for marriage its just a process of getting along with a mate so do wat u want.

another thing you should study instead of making baby.. if u would make baby u will ruin your future i have seen many ppl having baby at young age they always regret .. first i suggest you to study or do job get training or if u have huge amount of money just study, if u don't have then try to study or get job.. get some exp of life.. don't just get a baby ur life will be doomed. u don't think the child will grow up itself do u? make some planning and think how hard it will be to grow a baby at 19 u would be a dif part of society then ur friends .. just think of other things not baby..

and your parents.. Just tell i don't have planning to have baby right now.. i am planning to stand up in my feet and make baby at the right time .. with i have enough money and happiness u don't want your baby to be born when u and your husband is not getting along .. do u .. cause many ppl don't get along .. i think u r just married .. just get couple of years to get to know each other more.. see the marrige holds on or not.. tata just tell ur parents i love u they would be happy to hear that..zzz i am feeling sleepy

Answer 8

As Buda said

When time is write you will know for nirvana will smile upon you

or was it homer simpson

anyway if your good go for it anyway when they see the littel babby they will fall over and forgetit

all old people want a grandson (girl) at some point

because of the info i have gave you name (if its a him) DAniel if its a girl (Jasmin) allways liked that name

Answer 9

Well u need to consider if ur decisions wil ever affect ur parents.

Ur wayy to young, and theyre prolly scared tht when ur knockd up and ur bf leaves u they'll hav to take the kid.

Srsly its not a game of mummy n daddy ull hav a human beings life on ur hands.

Do u even hav money to take care of it?

Todays youth... srsly.

Answer 10

I'm afraid I'm with them on this one. You're very young to be getting so settled, most people your age are still off raising h**l and going out all night and basically being very silly and irresponsible and letting off steam.

You might miss that in later years.  

Answer 11

my advise listen to them you said it yourself your only 19 i bet your boyfriend is older...

Answer 12

Your life will affect your parents that is why you show your love and respect even if you don't agree with them.

Your parents all the only ones that will consider rescue you after your husband dumps you and your baby.

believe it or not parents know better but you will find out the wrong way.

Yes, you are too young to get pregnant but if you don't listen to your parents it only shows how lost you want to be.  

Answer 13

I don't know how far you live from them but it may help to see them more often, it may improve the relationship, especially if they can see you and your partner getting on well.

As for telling them you are trying for a baby, well you don't have to tell them. By all means when you get pregnant, tell them the happy news but all the time you are trying for one, if they are against it then they may try to talk you out ot which is stress you don't need. They are allowed to disagree with you, but if they love you they will not let it get in the way of helping you.

If you want to tell them, just try making hints about having a family in the future. Or decorating the small room in the house. Or hint about not drinking alcohol/smoking much because it affects the fertility of people. Some hint that fits in with your conversation.

If they do say you are too young, try not to fly off the handle or it will confirm to them that you are. Tell them you understand their point of view but instead of being against it, you'd like to involve them and you'd love their help as expert parents. They may be a little awkward but hopefully they will fall head over heels in love with their Grandchild.

Answer 14

Don't base your decisions on what your parents want. I got married when I was 18, and we had to make a decision about having children right away or waiting. I want to me a mom more than anything, but I realized after taking some time to just get settled in my life that I don't HAVE to have a baby right away. We can spend a while just being us, together and married. If I don't have a baby before I'm 25, there's nothing wrong with that. It took me a long time to realize that. And it took me a long time to learn how to separate my ACTUAL desires in life from things I was doing because I just could. My parents were extremely controlling right before I moved out, and I had a very hard time not doing things just to spite them. Take some time to figure out the motivation behind big decisions like having children. Do you want it RIGHT NOW for yourself, or do you want it right now because you can and because your parents wouldn't approve and you want to be your own boss?  

Answer 15

Tell them you understand that they feel very unsure of this, but you feel it's the right time and it's your life and that is what you want to do. Yes, you are young, but your not too young if you don't think so. Afterall you're growing up, your not a kid anymore. Maybe your parents are just upset eith you doing all this after just moving out. Go through this with them and tell them that you love them and thank them for looking out for you, but you are independant now.

Answer 16

I hate to tell you this but your parents are absolutely right.  So, you've only been on your own 3 months, right?  And now you think you're ready to take responsibility of another human life in addition to taking care of yourself?  I don't think so.  Raising a child is a huge responsibility and it changes your life forever - in good and bad ways.  Why are you and your husband in such a hurry to start a family?  Why not enjoy having time to just be young and married?  You need time to just be with your husband and establish a solid r'ship together before bringing a baby into the mix.  Plus, I dare say you've never been independent...am I right?  By this, I mean, have you ever lived on your own?  Not with a husband but truly on your own as a single woman?  Do you know how to pay your own bills?  Are you holding down a job?  If you haven't done any of this, then it's even more important to wait on having children.  

Answer 17

Well I do agreed with your parents, just because you're old enough to be reproduce doesn't mean you're fit to be a parent and marriage should be the last thing on your mind at this time. Marriage/babies are the biggest responsibilities we have in our entire lifetime. You should be focus on getting an education, college education if you don't have one. Anyway you're already out on your own and if you want to throw your life away having babies and getting marry that's you problem to deal with. Then you want your parents and everybody else to feel sorry for you when you're struggling with raising a baby on your own or with your bf or when your marriage goes down the toilet. The very people who tried to warn you from getting yourself in that situation, because you think at 19 you're a grown woman and you know it all.