What do people get out of constantly attacking grieving parents?

Question

Is it useful to point out where a parent went wrong after their child just died?

Answer 1

Constant attack of grieving parents is a sign that the person who is attacking, has usually failed as a parent themselves & has truckloads of guilt.

It's called transference & shows zero compassion.

Answer 2

what parents are you referring too, what child has died lol ?

EDIT: ahh i see whats going on now, i guess this is down to the individual case and just how negligent the parents were in playing a part in the death of the child.

As people we will always pass judgement on things that don't concern us its human nature I'm afraid :)

Answer 3

What Dave S seems to forget that there are various degree's in everything. In the cases mentioned even they vary from a simple mistake to serious child neglect and in rare cases even murder. The death of a child must be horrendous to any parent so to persecute grieving parents is unforgivable

Answer 4

Ah but Stormy you forget - these people are 'perfect'........never made one single mistake in their life.

Just think of the words 'self-righteous', 'holier than thou'...might help in answering your question.

Answer 5

Good to see Dave S back to his explosive self.

Answer 6

you right. i would ban them from having any other child, as obviously un responsible.

Often accidents hppens for naivity and lack of common sense, about time they get some

Answer 7

no that would just add salt to the wound .i think parents will be feeling guilty that their kids went wrong ,leave them alone to grieve.i cant stand it i see it with a boy who got shot the other week and he was a nice boy,yes he got mixed upi in something bad but thier parents dont deserve people attacking them

Answer 8

only if it stops others from following the same tragic circumstances. i personally think someone is jacking off on others misery, ever see that film crash ?  from memory i believe they got their sexual kicks watching others suffer in car crashes, same thing here, they get all excitied revelling in others misery caused by a stupid error of judgement or lapse of concentration ! if only we were all so perfect eh ? xx

edit' maybe you could get dave to measure inbetween the bars of that cage,  a small child could get it's head stuck inbetween those bars !  do you think dave should go work for the health and safety executive seeing as how he has ALL the answers !  lol x

stormy dave's gone quiet maybe his mummy has called him down for his tea, maybe she blows on it first just incase he burns his mouth  !!  pmsl   xx

Answer 9

Hi stormy,

sorry to be what some would deem to be a cold person, but to answer your question YES they need to know that innocent lives are being lost through neglect.

Answer 10

No, makes no sense really. I just wonder in fact why the press want to say these things the way they do. I had a girlfriend when I was young who got knocked down and We kept the paper from her mum and dad. We even after my brother got knocked down almost at the same spot four months later had the experience that my brothers, sisters mum, dad and neighbours bought every copy and burnt them. They thought I would kill myself in fact if I read them. To this day I have never read the article, I never wish to really I did have the odd persn tell me little bits. In fact I mentioned most of it already. Basically it was about two accidents in almost the same spot and longtime boyfriend sees brother almost killed at same spot. My god I saw two people I loved knocked down within ten foot of the same spots 4 months 5 days and 11 hours apart. See I can still now over a quarter a century later remeber every little detail of both accidents.

Answer 11

It doesn't serve any purpose & it certainly won't bring them back. Some people just love to disect things.

Answer 12

No its not just because they have made mistakes just as every one else in America who the h**l is them to criticize someone its wrong especially when people are trying to coup with that fact they have lost someone

Answer 13

It might be nice to know who and what you are talking about. As for the obvious, that reaction is normal. If the stupid action or lack of it causes a kid's death, then you naturally will make such a comment. And, I notice you do it too.

Answer 14

Dolly Bird your bang on with what you said

Answer 15

Because we are constantly seeing grieving parents. Never a week goes by without seeing or hearing them in the paper, on the TV, radio etc.

I would prefer if they grieved in private!!

Answer 16

Stormy - Since this question was directed at me ..........

Once youve analysed these 'accidents' in which children die, more often than not, its a catalog of errors and negligence by the parents that led to the 'accident'.

For instance with the 18 month old who died in a car accident. The child was out of a seatbelt. Fault number 1. The car was travelling in excess of the legal limit at 80mph. Fault number 2. The cars tyres were underinflated causing the blowout in the first place. Fault number 3.

This wasnt just an 'accident' but a catalog of errors and negligence on the part of the parents that contributed to the death of that little girl.

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With regards to the 3 year old who drowned while on holidays that I mentioned yesterday. Her family hired a villa with an unfenced pool despite having 7 children in tow. Fault Number 1. They put no floatation devices on the children to counteract the fact there was no fence on the pool. Fault number 2. They claimed they looked away for less than a minute, yet somehow she managed to slip away and not just drown but actually die as in could not even be resuscitated. Does this not seem incredioulous? It does to me. How do they know it was only a minute? Did they time from when they last saw her to when she was missing? Seems to me that they downplayed the amount of time she went missing for to save their own bacon.

Im more amazed that people would rather defend parents whose actions lead to the deaths of their children, than defend the rights of the children to be looked after properly.

Yet somehow Im the baddie in all of this ........ will wonders never cease.