What do think of stay at home moms?

Question

my sister is a stay at home mom and has been for 7 years with her two boys. I also plan on staying at home when I have kids.

But she is the only mom out of everyone we know that does this and she gets a lot of grief for it from others.

Every time she does things with people someone asks her what she does all day besides sitting on her butt! the husbands of these other mothers have called her lazy and said they feel sorry for her husband. can you believe that! it is more than a full time job being a stay at home mom! I offer to watch the kids everyother week just so she gets a few hours of alone time for herself! what do you think of that!

Answer 1

I am a stay at home mom and people say stuff to me ALL the time! Just because you stay home ll day dosent mean your lazy theres laundry,toilet to clean beds to make floors to vacum I could go o forever! But I think people who make those comments are jealous because they are not lucky enough to stay home with their kids!!

Answer 2

well I'm a stay at home mom and only 17 and i know from experience it ain't no sitting on your but newborn or 7 years old kids are hard work no matter how old you or they are and the husband should get no grief at all. he should be happy hes got someone who wants to be there.some moms cant stand to even look at their kids at least shes trying and kudos to her for being such a great mom. and to those other moms i dont know what else to say besides their the ones whose are lazy and careless if they wouldn't prefer being home with their kids.they may work but i believe kids are or top priority as long as we have enough income to feed and shelter them.if not GET A JOB . ya know .so they just need to mind their own business.

Answer 3

I think the people who make rude comments are just jealous that they can't stay at home themselves because their hubby doesn't make enough money to take care of them. Most women I've talked to said they'd quit their jobs in a heartbeat if they could afford to. My hubby loves it that I'm at home to greet him happily with a hot meal & lots of energy for lovin' afterwards :) He knows the days I work I'm drop dead exhausted and he doesn't get any...

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with being a stay at home parent in my opinion. Who cares what everyone else thinks?

Answer 5

The fact of the matter is people judge her because they are jealous.  I will be giving birth at the end of the month to our first child, and will be a stay at home Mom.  My Husband would have it no other way.  People should not feel jealous for the Husband, they should realize how great he is by be able to let his wife do this.  This way discussed way in advance with my Husband and I (even before we got married) and it was absolutely agreed upon between both of us that I would stay home, we dont want a daycare raising our Son.  We want to see his first steps and hear his first word.  This is my opinion, I know there are woman that are not as lucky to be in this position, I think every woman down deep would love to stay home with their child, some just cant afford to do it.

Answer 6

only we can judge ourselves and what a waste of energy.  quit comparing yourself and enjoy your life.

Answer 7

If I ever had kids, I'd continue working because I'd find the life of just staying home to be too boring, but that's just me.

I guess if the father of the kids can afford that agreement, there isn't anything wrong. I wonder if home schooling is the best idea though. For one the few years I lived in the US I've found US education to be subpar in comparison to mexican schools in terms of difficulty of subjects (in Mexico it's normal that kids are taught to read and write when they are like only 1 year old and arithmetic math is taught as early as kindergarden and not in elementary school).

Part of the problem with my generation is the overprotective parents. I guess it's still acceptable in Mexico because that's how the culture is here, but the US kids are expected to become independant as soon as possible and going to school away from the comfy nest mommy offers and fending off insensitive teachers and discovering the curelty of bullying and learning how to cope with it all is important to make kids independant, happy people when they turn 18. You don't want to be the laughing stock of the family because your barely financially independant 40 year old kids still live with mommy. Forget about having grandchildren, I'll say that.

I know how hard it must be to clean and maintain a house and stuff (the fact that the kids don't go to a school thus giving mom a few hours of freedom and peace would drive anyone insane). It's important for stay-at-home moms to have hobbies and special time with their spouses. Asking someone to babysit while they have a romantic all-night out to burn off steam and have weekend vacations is necesairy.

If I ever had kids, I'd try to live with balance. I want to keep enjoying my own life. My parents have no fun time on their own and they are miserable. That's not the kind of life I'd want. When you think things from that point of view, why would anyone feel excitement in having kids?

Answer 8

SAHM for almost 10yrs here!!  Your sister is giving her children an amazing gift.  Her friends are missing out on so many important things.  I am guessing not one of them has never second guessed their decision to go back to work.  How many soccer games, first steps, silly dances, made up jokes do they miss?  I am a firm believer in making as many sacrifices as possible to stay home.  You may not have the new fancy car, but you know how your child is being raised and you are watching them grow.  I do understand when a parent has no other choice and HAS to work.  That, I get.  I don't get those who think they HAVE to have a $50K + car, Prada, and jeans that cost $200.  My Levi's make my tush look just fine thank you.

Answer 9

I think people that think this way have to be the stupidest micky ficky's on this side of creation.  It is a very tough job being a stay at home mom.  

You have to get up at 0500, get the kids ready for school, take them to school, make sure they have lunch and snack money, come home, clean the house, (and watch the golden girls, lol) pay the bills, balance the check book, do the shopping, pick the kids up from school, help with homework (while cooking dinner) and then your husband comes home and walks on your clean carpet in his muddy army boots!  

And don't even talk about taking them to the pediatrician, the dentist, shopping, and ballet.

The only time I get for myself is after 9pm, when the kids are asleep.

BTW, any woman that does this and have a job outside the home is my hero!

Answer 10

I think no different of stay @ home Mums to Working Mums.

They all have the key word - MUMS

I don't really care what anyone thinks of me, or how I choose to raise my family. It's not their problem, it's Mine & My Husbands.

If they have a problem, I suggest they tell someone who cares., because like I said - I DON'T!!

They only time, I will judge someone, is if their parenting is disgusting & I tell them & Child Protection, not every Tom, d**k & Harry.

Answer 11

I am a proud stay at home. I admire and respect those women who choose or who have to work, but for my family it wasn't the right choice. Both my husband and I grew up in homes where our parents worked long hours at busy jobs. We spent most of our time with day care, sitters and other family members. I will always remember how it felt not to have my parents on field trips, at all my dance recitals and not to be able to have people over after school. I was so jealous of the kids whose parents volunteered at school, made all our dance costumes and had cookies and milk ready after school. We want our children to have all the things we didn't, so we decided *together* that I would stay home.

You don't need to justify your choice to anyone else. As long as you and your husband know this is the right choice for your family - you have nothing to worry about. Your true friends will support you no matter what.

Answer 12

Amazing, I've known many sahm's and very few actually spent time ENJOYING their children. It was always shoo, shoo, I've got to clean, make dinner, do laundry.

Dust bunnies under the bed can wait. People don't look back fondly to their childhood, remembering a spotless kitchen floor. This is the only time you have to give your children, and yourself, a closeness that will last a lifetime. Enjoy their company, their personalities.

Answer 13

who cares about what other people think?

if it's something you feel strongly about, then go for it.

if you work now, then uh DUH? apparently you AREN'T lazy.

and who gives a **** if your husband's coworker is saying that. what the h**l does he know? tell him to stay at home and watch the kids and homeschool them without watching football or any other sports while sitting on his *** drinking beer. who CARES about what other people say? if they're going to say that. then apparently htey aren't your true friends. didn't your mother ever tell you that when you were a kid? if people talk smack about you then thye aren't truly your friends. its the same thing as an adult.

if you want to stay home with your kids.

then you stay home with your kids

if other people are going to complain

tell them to **** themselves and try doing it on their own instead of judging other people.

Answer 14

Tell the idiots when their kids go to school and shoot their class mates, it'll be because  both parents were too busy working like the parents of the columbine shooters in order to have "nice things" instead of raising their kids.

If parents are just going to  pay someone else to raise their kids, why even have them?

Your sister has good sense.It isnt easy cleaning up after a husband and kids and tending to their needs.Also she is teaching her kids to be the adults she wants them to be instead of paying someone else to do it for her.

Answer 15

that's extremely stupid!

ppl don't realize and understand the hardwork that it is being a stay at home mom

its more work than it looks because my sister is a stay at home mom also and being a stay at home mom is just like a job maybe even harder because my sister has to clean cook and do all these different things she hardly sits down when shes not doing one thing shes doing another its crazy i don't know how she manages it

Answer 16

Some women have full time jobs AND they go home to complete their second-shift

Answer 17

Its natural!! thats why men where born strong and women with wombs! the men bring home the bacon and the women nurtures the children! i think its sad when women have children then go straight to work and pay nannies to bring up their kids, its just sad!

Answer 18

Moms have one of the hardest jobs around!

Anyone who doesn't know that dosn't have kids or doesn't know how to raise them right!

Answer 19

I think the guys making these comments should switch places with the stay at home moms (walk a mile in our shoes) and see how difficult keeping an house and raising children can be.  Guys get to go to an office, sit in a comfortable chair, in an air conditioned office, on their fat tushes, have intelligent conversations with other adults, get a full hour lunch break and maybe stop for a beer on their way home and expect dinner on the table when they walk in the door.  While we stay home change poopy diapers, deal with teething, vomiting babies, running around after toddlers, arguing with teenagers to do their homework, shutteling kids to soccer, scouts, doing laundry, gorcery shopping, etc. while carrying an extra 40 pounds around when pregnant.....

I think your question touched a sore spot with me.

Answer 20

Being a SAHM is a 24/7 job and we don't even get paid for it.  We are doing the same jobs that woman do in daycares but for much longer hours and no pay.  But we get to enjoy every moment with our little ones and be the ones to see their firsts.  There is nothing lazy about being a SAHM especially to little ones that are home all day.  We don't even take a break usually on weekends we really work 24/7.

Answer 21

I have been a stay at home mom for 4 years now and I dont like it much. I do love not having to worry about my child because I'm the one with her all day but I think I should have gone to work.It would have been better for the both of us in the long run for a million reasons.

Answer 22

i think they are AWESOME