What do u do when ur left all alone?

Question

Due to some family issue's created by my ungreatful sister. My parents have left us alone. We highlighted her acts and we're been made the baddies for doing so. Mum wanted us to pick the responsibility of having her live under my roof, when i declined she's sarcastically told us that now on ur on ur own. I will keep my daughter here with me...may u n ur husband life happy. God's watching u. N slamms the phone on us.

In 5 yrs i've always turned to them to talk to as i'm all alone out here...dont have any family around. But whenever i called to talk mum would sound cold and say that u should talk to ur husband he's intelligent.She would try not giving any input at all. I feel that whats the use of her being around if she can fulfil a mothers role?

She's there for my sister y not me? i did everything to keep their respect unlike what my sister thats messed up while living with us and told us that she thought it wouldn;t harm us? Mum called my husband a narrow minded person. How do i react to that? When i took his side she says ur not my daughter.

I am tired i really need to speak to someone...i am just loosing it...i dont trust any friends that i could talk to...

Answer 1

I would suggest you to go meet your mom and have a face to face talk. It seems to me that there has been some kind of misunderstanding between you n your mom. Maybe she's relying too much on what your sister said or else why would she be so upset?You definitely need to tell her your side of story as well. You can only hope to sort this out by telling her exactly what happened and how you feel about it. She's sure to come around.

Whatever you do, don't just let it go like that...it takes a moment to break bonds, but a lifetime to repair it.

Best of Luck.

Answer 2

I guess to a lot of people a mother is very special.  I wouldn't know for I never knew my mother.   But if I had, I don't think I could respect a mother like you have.  I would think that a mother would love their children equally and unconditionally.  No matter what my child would say or do I would love them and never put them down or say mean things to them.

If she were my mother, I would not call her again.  I would let her make the first move because she is the mother and she is the one who said all those nasty things to you and your husband.  Pray for your mother for she needs God's help to control her temper and speaking harshly to her children and not to be so selfish.

So many people think of I or me instead of they or them or you.  In other words, they only think of themselves and not of others.  What a pity that they find themselves more important than they do others.

Don't stress yourself out over this.  Things will get better but if they don't, not one moment of worry will do any good.  So lay yourself down and sleep well.

Blessings!  

Answer 3

well i REALLY want to help you so im going to try to answer your question the absoulte best i can =] okay so your mom probally has so much on her mind and is going through a lot right now, maybe things you might not know about.or im not sure your age but maybe shes just a little upset and worried that you're already grown up =] you should try... TRY to have a face-to-face talk with her and be as polite as possible cause remember she's still your mum. =] and just tell her exactly how you feel. maybe this might now be easy for you to do because i had a similar problem and i waited until FOREVER to apporach my mom but once i did, i was soo relieved and wished i had done it so mich more sooner because it was so easy for me and would of left me with less suspense. good luck i will have you in my prayers. god bless you! :)

Answer 4

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on a side note get some friends. talk to them. it can help alot.

Answer 5

You know sometimes you just can't change people and they may be hateful and hurtful because they think there owed something through life. Its unfortunate but maybe you should just move on and not think of her for motherly advice. Some things in life you can't change and that's how people act or feel. Do not be hateful or hurt full, just accept it and remember do not do that to your kids.  

Answer 6

Sorry you are going thru that. Seriously, go to Dr. Phil's website. There was a show a few months back similar to your situation. There may be some information on there that can help you. BUT, if I were you, I would just leave the situation alone. If they don't want to have anything to do with you because of your sister, then let them take care of her and you just go on with your life being happy. Some parents are like that, but not all are like that.