What do u think about adoption?

Question

i stay every day in the hospital because i'm a future doctor and i see a lot of children without parents.i play with them,i change their pampers and i think every they that one of them maybe will be mine someday.is better to adopt first or to make first your baby to see how it is?

Answer 1

i think adopition is very good and helps thechild to know that someone loves them

Answer 2

either is better.

Answer 3

Adopting is not easy or  even having a baby it is a mixed up of excitement and worries and its really up to you how would you want your life would be by adding a little angel in your house =) but before anything else ask yourself are you ready to become a mom??? then regarding about if you would adopt or make a child on your own as your first child it is much better that you take down the pros and cons then evaluate which one is more appropriate and convenient for you. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

I think that adoption is a wonderful thing for couples who can't have children on their own and for the children with no family. I personally would not adopt because I want all my children to be biological. If for some reason I did decide to adopt, I would definetley have a biological child before I did.

Answer 5

i'm 12 years old...

what's wrong with you.

Answer 6

I've never been married and didn't feel it was right for me to get pregnant.  (notice I said for ME)  I think each person or couple should do what they feel is right for them.  you never know what you're going to get either way.  you could give birth to a handicapped child as easily as adopt one.  some handicaps don't show til the child is older, even school age.

Answer 7

I think you should adopt a baby now and then have your own. It is a blessing to give. Given another child without a parent headstart is a wonderful thing.

Answer 8

I don't think either way is better. Do what you feel is right. Adoption is great. I have 2 children and 1 step child that are all boys. And now due to DVT I was told not to have any more children. So me and my husband plan to adopt a little girl some day.

Answer 9

I think it is a personal choice of the couple. If they cannot get pregnant then it is great that some of them to choose to adopt a child.

Answer 10

I definitely agree with fostering if you're unsure on whether or not to have a baby... either way, adopted or your own, a baby is a baby and it comes with the same responsibilities.  You can't rent a child and then give it back if you find out that it's not for you...

I hope to have kids of my own one day, one or two biological and then one or two adopted.  I believe that adoption is a wonderful thing, so like anything else, support it by doing it... it may not make a huge difference in the spectrum of many things dealing with adoption (like the fact that there are a ton of kids in foster homes) but it'll make a difference to that baby.  You as a person can only do so much, but I have a feeling that you'll make a great parent when you're ready.

Answer 11

Parenting an adopted child and parenting a biological child are very, very different.  So, doing one or the other first won't really make much of a difference.  I've heard of people adopting after having their own natural children, and later disrupting the adoption because they had no clue what they were getting into.  Adoption creates an enormous emotional upheaval for many children (and many of them hide it, or don't discover themselves the emotional upheaval until adulthood) that your homegrown children won't have.  So, parenting your biological children won't prepare you for adoption.  And adopting won't prepare you for a biologically related child, either.

Answer 12

Well Anca, you want an honest answer, well here goes.

Nobody, for no matter what reason, should take the duties of being a parent lightly, whether it be from a natural birth or via adoption.

Children are not accessories that look nice, are expensive and take a heck of a lot of time and patience, and cost a heck of a lot of money, especially in countries that unlike the UK, have no free medical services.

When considering a child, you are making a life changing decision, and it's not just short term, but for a minimum of at least 16 years, so it is a decision that should not be taken lightly.

If you are considering adoption, then maybe it would be far better to try fostering first.

This will give you the chance to actually do a dummy run so to speak. To see if you could actually cope with the addition of a child, or possibly more than one, to come into your lifestyle, and not only fit in, but to actually allow the unit, by which I mean both prospective parents and MORE IMPORTANTLY the child(ren) to co-exist in a happy caring environment.

Hope this helps,

Mike T.

Answer 13

Wow.  This sounds so strange to me.  Can you also see yourself explaining this to your grown, 40-something daughter?  What are you going to do:  have a baby and see if it is ok, if not, send it back and adopt a better model?

Obviously pregnancy and birth would have been covered in your medical classes.  But, uuuh, I seriously doubt parenting has been covered.  Frankly, I think you need to grow up and mature into someone prepared for the responsibilty of parenthood.