What do we Filipino women think about foreigners as partners?

Question

In my opinion, I think foreigners are nice because they're open minded.

I had about three foreign suitors before but i ignored them all because of my Filipino suitor (now my boyfriend). Now i regret it just a little because I've experienced physical abuse from him without a reason just because he was not in a good mood. But it's too late now, i think i can not leave him. We're living together anyway and both our parents know, and everyone knows. I feel like i'm his property now.

Answer 1

All people are the same wherever they live... Some are nice, some are bad due to individual differences and cultures...

If a woman is married to a foreigner, it is not a guarantee that her life would be better...

Many people think   that foreigners are rich, nice, open-minded, etc... The truth is that many women are suffering due to being married to a foreigner because of abuse...

What important is .. a woman should know her partner well before getting married...

I am married to a foreigner, and he is nice, responsible and open-minded which is opposite to my friend.. Because my friend just got married without knowing that person... He is rich but a *****...

Answer 2

for your question, the filipino women think differently. if you are a lower class citizen in the country, probably you think of your foreign partner as a gateway to your financial status. if you are in the middle class or in the upper class society then you probably not think of him as a partner but a friend. unless you feel love for him and vice versa.

the way i see i here in he philippines, most foreigners (not all of them) are dating lower class citizen coz they know how to handle and value their marriage and tthe like.

for your problem with your bf, leave him now before its to late....

Answer 3

i emphatize with you dear .

and like what i've always wanted to tell the victims of abuse, GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!!

an abusive man will never change, no matter what you do. it's no longer a taboo in the Philippines to leave your partner. it is better to explain your situation to your parents, they would know what to do, rather than you suffering from depression and low self-esteem..

i know you don't feel good about yourself anymore. chances are instead of having a good outlook in life, you'll no longer do that.

you'll suffer from stress every now and then. no peace of mind. the love you have now is not love.if the guy loves you truly, no matter what mistake or errors, or no matter what you are and who you are, he'll accept you and forgive you but never to hurt you physically and mentally.

remember that abuse is like a washing machine, the longer you experience it, the more it pulls you down. its a cycle. and the worst thing is, you'll even allow yourself to be hurt more..

leave now dear. i did. and i'm happy.. happier than before. i have a stress free life now. i don't cry every night and i don't fear for my life anymore..

i wish you could do the same..

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i forgot this:

no one owns anyone..remember that. they don't own us, only ourselves could decide for ourselves..

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thanks papa chuck. yup i've experienced the worst, risking my life for a love i thought was love.  he was sweet,he cares for me,we've lived together as partners,we've been together for a long time,(longer than your three years sinner),we even had a baby but we were young then so we decided not to continue with it, but if i look into the relationship and weigh things, the negative aspect is heavier. he doesn't love me. love is not hurting the other person. it's a two way process,never a one-way street.

sinner,you're very young and tends to be impulsive. "matalino ka pa naman,very bright that is". you could go greater lengths sinner. i hope you'll not come to a point that you will regret not having achieved your dreams because of your love for him.

love yourself dear.

Answer 4

From what I hear they are very open to the idea.  You must remember though, that there are jerks in every culture.  Abuse is abuse, if he doesn't stop then get out of the relationship ASAP.

Answer 5

But we should remember personality doesn't  depend on its  race.Filipino think of foreign partners because they think all foreigners are rich.Its a gateway to leave the poor Philippines.

Answer 6

i heard gretchen baretto said one time in a tv interview that if a woman values herself, the man will value her too. with regards to your physical abuse, it' s not too late to get out of it. it's your choice to stay.

regarding foreigner partners, u are correct when u said they are open-minded and that is because of their liberal country and upbringing. however, in any relationship, it is still love, repect, and trust that mold the two of u. i have an italian partner,and i don't see our cultural differences as hindrance for the growth of our relationship. it goes the same way with everyone else. not all filipino men are good, and so are foreigners. we must remember that a relationship is give and take. as long as both of you strive to make it work, it will work...

most importantly, pray, pray,and pray...it works wonders! put

God in the center of your relationship, though times may be hard, you both will survive.

goodluck!

Answer 7

Physical abuse is a pattern. If you tolerate it now as his girlfriend, then prepare for a lifetime of abuse because that's what you're gonna get lady. Like the previous posters said, get out of your current relationship while you still can. there are plenty of Filipinos out there who have the decency not to hit women. Believe me, it's not a Filipino problem. Domestic abuse occurs everywhere not just in the Philippines.

What do you mean both your parents know? They know you live together or they know he's abusing you? I'm pretty sure they would not be very happy if they found out that he smacks you around.

You just need a good dose of self esteem and self respect. You're no-body's property but your own. Buck up and take control before it's too late. Leave that son of a dog and find yourself a nice filipino man, not some dirty old foreigner looking for a mail order bride. Really, it all boils down to SELF ESTEEM AND SELF RESPECT.

Answer 8

i'll never know unless i cross the bridge.

even so,

i think i'll end up marrying a filipino.

yeah yeah yeah.

some foreigners are nice.

but a man who shares the same culture as me,

is better.

Answer 9

I am not a Filipino and definitely not a female but will answer your question, anyway.

Yes some foreigners are nice and open minded. I am sure that also applies to Filipino's too.

Physical abuse you can receive from Filipino and Foreigner alike. Don't be under the misconception that a Foreigner will not mistreat or abuse a female, it does happen and quite regularly. For any 'man' and I use the term very loosely, to lay a hand on a woman is probably the most cowardly act possible.

Normally the male is drunk which is bad enough but for your boyfriend to attack you just because he is in a  bad mood worries me.

It is NEVER TO LATE to leave such a relationship, you are lucky in that your parents are there to assist you.

Don't consider yourself as anybodies property, You own yourself, your not a slab of beef to be owned and abused by some coward.

Leave before the physical abuse becomes an everyday occurrence and gets to the stage where you think and feel that because he 'loves' you he has the right.

Heed Warriors words sounds like she's been there.  

Answer 10

As partners, I think they're ok. It depends on nationality and upbringing.

Open mindedness depends on a person's perspective and the culture they were brought up in. Not all foreigners are that open minded. I've dated both Filipinos and foreigners and I have to say there are @$$H0|3$ in every culture and nationality.

As far as abuse goes, it doesn't choose what nationality it affects either. You are only a victim of your own actions. If you don't put up with his abusive behavior, I don't think he'll be repeating it. If you think you don't have a choice, YOU'RE DEFINITELY WRONG! Everyone has a choice. You're only living together, you're not even married yet and with kids. If this continues, imagine what your family's life would be? Imagine what your kids would grow up to be? Have some guts and believe in yourself, you're not a thing that can be owned, you're a person with body and soul!

Answer 11

Hmmmm... An 18-year old Filipina and a 57 year old (rich) Japanese Man.... That must be really true love...

Answer 12

Probably cos they think they have alot of money. Being from a third world country they need to be financially stable so for them it's probably the easiest thing to do.

Answer 13

geez... of course you have a choice and you dont deserve to be beaten like that. C'mon woman have a little self-respect and stop acting like you got no choice no more. It is never too late.. h**l you are not his puppet on a string! Make a decision now before seeing yourself inside a coffin.

Anyway, I think foreign guys are romantic and sincerely open-minded. They are very straight forward about their feelings. They normally don't understand why you buy all them cosmetics because for them you are the prettiest woman in the world...heck... its how they will make you feel.  They are usually patient if you are not fluent in their language but some of them will take time to learn your language (like my fiance did).

I hope you'd soon realize that women always have a choice.