What do women give to men?

Question

In a relationship a man would

-provide

-protect

-do all the dirty traditionally male housework

-be chivalrous

-do half the cleaning, cooking

-pay and plan for dates

-pay and plan all vacations

-give massages, draw her a bath

-nurture her/hold her to sleep

-do half the cleaning , cooking

-be expected to initiate all s*x

-sleep on the couch

-be in the doghouse and end an argument with flowers

-give expensive gifts

-be expect to hit but not hit back

-spend about $40,000 during courtship.

I just want to know what do women do in return?

Answer 1

I wonder the same thing.. I start to get resentful after a while. And yet, they still want everything.

I understand not all women are like that, so I dont mean to stereotype. Just the women from personal experience..

Answer 2

Life! End of story.

Answer 3

Either your last relationship was with a d********x/*****, or you never had one. Whatever the case, I'm sorry you have such a warped image of women.

women:

-provide, and in many cases, earn more than the man.

-raise the children, do the housework,

-do all the female housework: cleaning, laundry, dishes, diapers, raising kids, cooking (a very hard job which takes utmost responsibility), and more.

-be patient and compassionate. When was the last time you saw a chivalrous man?

-do most of the cleaning, cooking.

-idk what world you've been living in, but there are many relationships where the woman pays and does all the planning for the dates and vacations

-be expected to have to deal with her husband's idea of "initiating s*x", even when she's not in the mood

-who says men sleep on the couch?

-ok, the one with men being in the doghouse and end an argument with flowers is pure bullshit. we're not living in the 50s.

-do we ASK for expensive gifts, or do you feel the need to give so much because you're compensating for weakness in something else, or you're insecure.

-it's true men are expected not to "hit back", as you say, when hit. but think about it, in a good relationship, there wouldn't be any "hitting" at all.

-you say you spend 40,000 during courtship, but i haven't met any men who were willing to let the girl pay, because apparently, it strips them of their masculinity when the girl pays. Double standard.

-basically, contribute to the other HALF of the relationship.

of course this list is general. sometimes the list gets switched up, and the man does all of the above listed, while the woman does all of what YOU'VE listed.

In a real relationship where both sides really care about each other, men aren't expected to "initiate all s*x", "sleep on the couch", "be in the doghouse", and then expect to gain forgiveness with flowers, give expensive gifts to validate his love, and there would be no abuse.

Answer 4

If she makes your heart stop, whenever you happen to glance her way........

If she makes it clear, with her actions, that everything she does is with you in mind.....

If she gently touches your face and gives you a look that melts your heart.....

If she does all this then your petty concerns about money are groundless.

Sounds like the woman in your life is coming up holding the short end of the stick if the only things you are going to offer her are the things on your list. Have fun being alone...LOSER.

Answer 5

Well that sounds great in theory, but I earned more than my husband, we protect each other just in different ways. The only house work I have ever asked him to do is mop and vacuum as I am not physically able. I took my husband before we got married out many times I would cook for him in my home or his and always clean his house if we ate there. I have planned as many if not more vacations as him and paid for them too, including a Caribbean Cruse. Until I was unable I gave him a massage almost every night. When he had to work over time his bath would be ready I initiate s*x more than he dose. He has never slept on the couch except during a base ballgame. He has never been in the "dog house" I have given him 2 diamond rings plus many more things Big screen TV Gold chain. I have never hit him and only cursed him once. He did not spend even $4,000 in our court ship much less $40,000. Now what do I do in return. I give him all of the mental and emotional support he needs. I never tell him no when he wants something even is I think it is stupid. I don't mess around on him. But then he does all of those things for me too. Maybe you could get more if you weren't so worried about what you were giving.

Answer 6

Do you suspect that your list represents all, most, or as many as a few men? What percentage?

The all or nothing idea is a whole lot of biased.

I'll even take this a step further...

In a relationship, women:

- Contribute to the household by working 40 + hours (for less pay?)

- Exercise regularly, dress attractively, wear makeup to hide flaws, stay on a perpetual diet (even if we splurge sometimes)

- Do all of the traditionally female housework: Nurture, clean, and maintain the kids, the pets, and the home (at least half the time)

- Take time off work for emergency room visits (including yours), sporting events (including yours), and any school honors that you can't make it to.

- Save for vacations, retirement, your big screen tv and home renovations.

- BJs (your satisfaction) when we are too exhausted for the s*x that we would love to initiate and HAVE if we weren't working, just like you.

- Give massages, wearing naughty nighties, and sometimes getting turned down TOO.

- Sleep on the floor of a puking child with a fever

- Accept the glamour gifts while we are cleaning the kitty litter, the doggy poo in the yard, and cleaning bug carcasses off the wall.

- Play the helpless hostage until the disagreement ends and it is understood that you are correct.

- Spend $15,000 during courtship to look good enough that you won't be looking at the 16 year old hottie that will be legal in another 2 years.

- Tolerate the arguments where my contributions are not only questioned or overlooked, but entirely negated.

I don't like this answer at all because it doesn't represent how I feel. And now I feel sorry for you.

Answer 7

Men who actually do even most of these things are not on the internet typing up a list of them because they're too busy living their life with a happy partner who shows gratitude and he's too content to really come on the internet and complain as he has nothing to complain about and he knows what all his partner does in return.

Answer 8

None of the things you've mentioned are really gender specific. Women could do all these things too, so therefore next to everything you've listed is also what women give to men. And there is some degree of attachment in a relationship, so if one person involved (man or woman) didn't want to do anything at all for the other, it doesn't sound like a very stable relationship.

One other thing: who is this psycho woman who hits you?

Answer 9

Wow-what a boring relationship you've had-if you've ever had one. Hon I initiate a lot-its a lot more fun. I usually do the providing; don't want protecting; pay others to do stuff I don't want to do for the house; don't need chivalry or want it; pay for most of the dates and vacations; sleep on the couch when he snores too loud; don't fight so don't need to send or get flowers; don't buy or want expensive gifts; don't hit or get hit; and don't want or need much spent by me or my partner on courting. Non-traditional relationships are much more fun-your traditional gender roles sound oppressive at worst and boring at best.

You make a relationship sound like a bartering system-what about love and devotion and sensuality and friendship and faithfulness and cooperation and fun? If you want something for what you pay for-buy a prostitute. Sounds like just what you need.

Answer 10

I wouldn't want to be with a man who gave massages out of a sense of obligation. I want to be-- and am-- with a man who does sweet and thoughtful things because he cares about me.

I don't need provision or protection, so that's out. I don't want chivalry, I want someone who's polite "just because," not because I'm a woman. I don't expect to be paid for on dates or vacations. I have initiated sexual activity. I don't expect expensive gifts, and I don't participate in abusive relationships of any kind so I wouldn't strike a man.

Some things on your list are "Do half the ___." Women, in return, do the other half.

You're looking at a very specific type of relationship. Modern relationships often work differently.

Relationships should not involve one partner tallying up all the "nice things" he gives to the other. Do what you want to do, and do it because you CARE for her, not because you want p***y.

Answer 11

Wow, am amazed.  $40,000 spent on courtship?

No offence, but I've never seen nor heard of this(maybe I'm just a cheap date)

But you have a great point.

Men do a heck of alot for women and the way you put it, any woman should thank her lucky stars for a man as wonderful as that who goes the extra mile.

Answer 12

Most of them nothing. They are parasites who only take.

Answer 13

Companionship

s*x

Children

Someone to care for you when you are sick.

Someone to talk when you feel sad.

Someone that surprises you with loving surprises.

Someone that makes a house feel like home.

Someone to take care of your home or to help you with the economics at your home.

As of men paying always. It will depend on the kind of woman you find. For better or worse this isn't the 1950.

Answer 14

All. But I don't care how mad you get at me. I wont sleep in no dog house or on the couch. Nor will I spend 40 grand on you and I won't expect it to be spent on me. Any girl that doesn't give her man a massage is just mean.

Answer 15

well you have pointed out some facts here and look at a lot of them get all defensive, goes to show ya that not only is it true but they cant even get passed there own shallowness. and yet in the question only one actually gave a answer to it.

Answer 16

Well your basically taking the best possible man out there(except for the part about domestic violence) and comparing him to an average woman.

I guarantee you that the VAST VAST majority of women would love you forever if you did all those things.

Something tells me you dont talk to many women.

Answer 17

A giant headache

Answer 18

I've never been given or had those things occur in any relationship...and I'm a 30 year old healthily committed/dating female!   If you are really doing serious soul seeking I suggest you write up what you would love in a partner instead of bitterly stating the facts of what you provide...unless you want an arrangement?  Sounds like you've been going to the same type of bars/places...and have been treated awfully bad!  I'm sorry.  Maybe you need a change of scenery to attract or find some women with more depth.  Good luck!

Answer 19

Erm I think the fact that you've bothered to write this pathetic list is why you can't get a girlfriend...