What do women really want in a relationship? ?

Question

Pls i need help.

My fiancee just left me without a valid reason

She claims she's not just satisfied with everything

I did my best for her to the best of my ability

Im so distraught. What do women really want?

I need to move on but it's just so shameful and sickening

We're planning our wedding when she just started withdrawing

She dosent even pick my calls anymore........

Answer 1

Good riddance to bad rubbish! Am sorry ur hurting but ur lucky she ended it before it began, its better to break an engagement or relationship than to break a marriage. Its hard to say what women want becoz every one is different from the other,some want security ie money, others do it for convenience, love etc. She didn't love you enough to go thro' with the wedding. Count ua self lucky that she did what she did coz u definitely deserve a better woman than her.

Answer 2

Each woman is different and so they want different things.  For me, it is respect, friendship, feeling very accepted by my mate, someone who makes me laugh and feeling as though he only wants to be with me.  I'm sure your girlfriend has mentioned certain things that aren't going well within the relationship - those are the missing items for her in your relationship.  It sucks now, but it's better that it is happening now and not after you got married with children. Sometimes things just aren't right.

Answer 3

You fiance sounds like a confused woman who got too deep into a relationship without really wanting to and before she knew it, she was engaged and getting ready to get married and the reality scared her away. That's not all women, some of us know what we want and aren't scared to face reality. Be happy though that you didn't walk down the aisle with this woman and got stuck with someone who was full of regrets. There are those out there that get so swept up in all of it that  they don't stay true to themselves and maybe she wasn't staying true to herself and really wanted to experience more in life.

Make sure when you do get your head together and move on that marriage is in that person's set goals. It's disappointing that she left you, but it could have been worse, you could be getting divorced to this woman and fighting a custody battle for your children just because she regrets getting married.

Good luck.

Answer 4

we like someone who is honest,someone to love us no matter what, someone who genuinely cares about our feeling, and someone who enjoys spending time with us at least that is what i want.

Answer 5

to answer your question:  we want honesty and openness, interest in our feelings and opinions.

But, that doesn't help your situation any because it's what your fiancee wants that is the problem here.  You need to find out what SHE wants/wanted and not minimize her feelings because you think they're unimportant.

Answer 6

Never rush into a serious relationship as in marriage!  Watch out for the red flag advance warning signs! Do not ignore these red flags!

Answer 7

There is somethng more going on here than meets the eyes

Answer 8

Money money and more money . If you are broke the only woman that will have you is maybe the bag lady .  Sure you may get dates once in a wile if you have money to take them out and show them a good time but when the money is out so are they . Now if you have lots of money they will fight over you .  

Answer 9

What did you do is the question?  Many women want many different things out of a relationship. \

Answer 10

Delayus, this may hurt, but from your short description it sounds like she was using you to get what she wanted and probably never had the intention of sticking with you. I have known women like this who find a nice guy that gives them everything that they want (especially money) and as long as the money (or whatever it is that they're getting out of their relationship with you) keeps coming, they stick around. But if you try to take the relationship to the next level they have to bolt because they aren't in it for the right reasons.

It sounds like you might need to take a more laid back approach to your relationships. Give a woman what she wants emotionally, physically, and with your time commitment, but don't shower her with money and gifts until you know that she likes you for who you are and not what you give her. Small tokens of affection are fine, but paying for trips and expensive stuff like that shouldn't happen until you know that they love you for who you are, not what material things you can offer them.

My wife, the best woman on the planet in my opinion, always used to have a saying before we got married. She would always tell me that I didn't ask her to marry me because "why would I buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?" I think you need to take that approach: don't offer up the milk until YOU get what you need from the relationship. If you concentrate so hard on what your partner needs, and don't get what YOU need, then your partner is not worth the time you're spending to simply "appease" them.

Get back on the horse and find a woman that just loves to be with you and doesn't continually need "things" from you... those women are out there, and they typically don't look like models. ;)

Good luck!

Answer 11

Here's what you do - move on.  Seriously.  Move on and show her that your life is wonderful without her.  If you really want her back and if it's really meant to be, that will kill her.  

Answer 12

Only you know the real answers think back what were most of your arguments about did you acknowledge them or did you blow them off as if they would go away and she realized that you weren't taking her serious. This is usually the cause. She has no real reason because there were so many and so long perhaps. You have to realize next time just because you may not see something as a problem doesn't make it any less legitimate for the other person. In other words there were problems you just didn't acknowledge them because they weren't your concern. If she really did and does love you if you can remember the complaints that will be your door way back in if you want it. Acknowledge the problems and let her know you see them now and show her you are working on them.

ADD ON- There is your answer she is a gold digger her issues have nothing to do with what women want. She wants money it's not a women thing its a her thing. She probably found herself a sugar daddy. Also the christian thing just because someone gos to church doesn't make them holy.

Answer 13

If you two were getting along to the best of your knowledge, and you didn't know her leaving you was an option, then I have to think it was something on her end that was unresolved. How far away was the wedding? You can never be assured of anything, but maybe if you give it time, let her gather her thoughts, or let her go and be crazy if need be, she will realize she needs to talk to you and be honest as to why.

There is nothing that says you have to move on right away; you are allowed to be sad, confused, angry, whatever emotion you want to be. Like I said though, by your description, it doesn't sound like anything you did.

As far as what women really want in a relationship; Honesty, trust, respect, love, freedom, laughter, and most of all... support in our decisions. You can't tie women down, and they need to know you still value their thought, ideas, and reasons.

Best of Luck, I think you will get resolution sooner than it feel.