What do you consider cheating?

Question

Does cheating begin with eating alone with a co-worker of the opposite s*x alone. Or if you are g*y, flirting around with people of the same or opposite s*x? As a married woman, would it be wrong to sleep with another woman? What about a kiss? Please, I invite you to share your thoughts and definition of what cheating is to you. Not a website - YOU. Thanks.

Answer 1

It could begin that way, but it doesn't necessarily lead to cheating.  To me, flirting is harmless.

Kissing, other than a peck, sleeping with someone, touching other than a handshake or a pat on the shoulder, not good!

I don't think p**n is cheating either, but I think camming is.  

Answer 2

I would never cheat. I'm not a jealous person, but if I was in a relationship, I wouldn't want her to flirt, thats considered cheating to me. I want her to be occupied with myself.

Answer 3

Yes i think once you cross over the friendship line into flirtation town you are cheating, some times we have a mental connection with someone out side our relationship and it can be hurtful to your partner only because of what it can lead to....  If your in a relationship with someone and love them then no one else should cross your mind twice!

Answer 4

Eating together is not cheating,to consider it to be would be paranoid and controlling.

If a woman wanted to sleep with another woman she would have to accept that her husband would be allowed to sleep with whoever he wanted to as well.

There is only one question I would ask to decide if someone has cheated.

Would you kiss your mum/dad/brother/sister like that.

No? That's cheating.

If by any chance they said yes alarm bells should ring too!

Answer 5

For me cheating is physical contact. I think if you fancy someone else or flirt with them, it's not cheating, as you are not acting on your feelings.

If you kiss someone, then I think that this is step 1 cheating in my book.

I don't think the gender of the person makes a difference at all

Answer 6

Any touching, other than a friendly cheek-peck, hug or handshake is cheating.  Flirting can get too intense; it may not be cheating but it can come darn close.  Two co-workers or friends having lunch is nothing.

If you're a married woman, sleeping with or kissing another person is cheating - no matter who they are.

Answer 7

Seems like you are thinking of cheating. Yes, all this is cheating, even lunch if you have ulterior motives. Of course sleeping with a woman if you are married is cheating. Cheating is breaking a promise to be faithful to your spouse.

Maybe you should not be married.

Answer 8

I would say that cheating is any loving/lustful action done with any person you have a romantic interest in while you are with another person exclusively.  This includes members of the same or opposite s*x if you have an attraction to them.

However, that holding as the definition of cheating would be saying almost every person has cheated at one time or another- seeing as I would bet that most people have hugged a little too close to an ex they aren't quite over yet or something similar.

So, that being said- I think the social standard of cheating is defined a little more loosely, more directly related to doing something sexual/lustful with someone you're interested in- possibly starting with cuddling, hand holding, or kissing.

Answer 9

This is another great example of why communication is sooo important in any relationship... I personally don't consider flirting cheating (although I don't like it...I wouldn't allow it to end a relationship), but pretty much anything further than that is cheating. Some people have different boundaries, and for some people it's all situational. You need to talk it out with your husband- communicate to him that you are interested with others and clarify your expectations of each other... and another good rule to live by- is if you wouldn't like it if someone did it to you, than don't do it to other people (...would you consider it cheating if your husband slept with another man...). You're best bet is asking your husband the same kind of questions that you just asked us (maybe soften them up a bit...), he'll be able to tell you better than any of us could. Good luck!

Answer 10

quite simply cheating is anything deliberately sexually physical to someone other than your partner (which comes from arousal rather than simple affection i.e kissing a friend on the cheek is hardly provocative) be it a kiss or intercourse. Gender does not come into it.

also being provocative/overly flirtatious towards someone, to me personally, is as good as cheating, if you love the person you are with these thoughts/actions simply don't come into your head.

when someone says 'i cheated with someone but i still love my partner' they really need to educate themselves to what being IN LOVE actually means..

Answer 11

Any contact is cheating.... It sucks i know but those are the rules.. Plus if you want to cheat then your probably not happy you should communicate that to your husband!!! Good Luck

Answer 12

I think cheating is when you touch another human being sexually. I think kissing is cheating. I really believe as I get older that everybody cheats, just some people admit to doing it. Good luck and be careful.  

Answer 13

i would never cheat.  

Answer 14

i consider cheating to be a betrayal of a committed monogamous relationship. ('committed' to me does not exclusively mean marriage)

some light or humorous flirting is ok, casual hugs, and the friendly peck kind of kiss, in appropriate situations.

anything more then that i would consider cheating.

however, i think there is also 'emotional cheating'. especially now with all the internet communications, not all 'cheating' is physical. but it's a very gray area...but a 'more than friends', intimate emotional relationship.

Answer 15

Flirting...OK.  Lunch with a co-worker, providing there is no ulterior motive...OK.  Having s*x with anyone regardless of your or their sexual orientation is cheating, as is building a personal and intimate emotional relationship with someone aside from your significant other.  If you are wanting to sleep with someone else, then either be prepared to let your husband do so as well...or don't be married.  s******g around on your husband doesn't magically become OK just because it takes place between two "straight" women : )