What do you do if people just assume they can come to your wedding and/or reception?

Question

If people you didn't invite show up to your reception or wedding when you only planned for a certian number of people, what do you do???

Answer 1

It is very unlikely that anyone will just "show up" without an invitation - "Wedding Crashers" is a movie, not real life. But if people nag you for an invitation and you don't plan on inviting them, just say breezily, "Oh, we're having a very small wedding - mostly family and few close friends" and then change the subject.

Answer 2

Honestly. Ask them to leave. But not you yourself, asign someone the job of handing out placecards (seating attendant) and if someone arrives who dosnt have a card, the attendant then needs to know that it is their job to instruct the uninvited to leave. This also goes for guests who had been invited but then RSVP'd that they could not make it; but last minute changed their minds and showed up. Dont feel bad. It's not you job to make everyone in the world happy. It is YOUR day.

Answer 3

Most people would not just go to a wedding without receiving an invitation.  To me, if they are that excited to share your special day with you that they are willing to 'shamelessly' crash your wedding, squeeze them in with a smile.  In a few years from now  they might well have become your best friends and you'll be glad they were there.  Either way, you'll have a great story to tell about the 'wedding crashers' at your wedding!

Answer 4

Wedding crashers.  Sometimes they assume that they are invited (close friend or family member). Sometimes they just figure they were inadvertently missed. Still others just blatantly show up.  Just have one of the groomsmen escort that person out.

It's more tricky when one of your invited guests brings an extra person (Aunt Milly was in town and we couldn't leave her home alone) or they bring a date that wasn't invited.  Most caterers have a little extra for one or two guests, but maybe only exactly the number of lobsters.  You'll just have to figure out how best to deal with it.

Answer 5

The vast majority of people don't just 'show up' at a wedding, they wait for an invitation.

if you think abut it, it's pretty hard to just show up if you haven't been told...what day, what time, and what place....and people who asume they are invited will know they aren't when the invite doesn't come...they will ask....then they can be told as politely as possible that there were only so many invitations to go around...yada, yada....so it's not really a worry....good luck.

Answer 6

you can ahve the wedding coordinator meet them at the door and let them know they are not on the list.  That way you dont look directly like the bad person.

If you think ti will happen have a few extra seats.

Tell them that they we not accounted for and will not be able to stay or eat!