What do you do if you're embarrassed and ashamed of all your family members?

Question

I don't want anyone to meet them.

Answer 1

Just walk away. My parents would let me do that.  I don't know about yours. lol.

Answer 2

Move and change your name. It' s what I did. I love my dog. :)   I have wonderful friend as well. We celebrate holidays together and everything. I will still send a card to my mom. You just gotta do what you gotta do.

Answer 3

Are you talking about your children and your husband?  If so, you chose your husband and you raised your children.  It is not too late to learn how to parent and change your ways so that your children will be raised to be responsible adults that you can be proud of

If you are talking about siblings and parents, you have the choice to love them and accept them as family or to go your own way.  You can visit them at their home or your home but you do not need to go out with them.  Hopefully, at your age, you are no longer living with any of them.  If you are, it is time to move out and support yourself.

Answer 4

You sound like my older sister. She moved to England and left us all in Cal. She thought she was too good for everyone, not true.

I was only 15 when she moved and 12 when she left our home, I can't imagine what someone my young age could do to her to make her feel ashasmed of.

I think she was a snob.

Answer 5

That's really sad, I don't know why people go through that weird stage but I think it is so sad for everyone involved.  You should be proud of where you came from and who helped make you the person you are.

Answer 6

Move away,love them from AFAR thats what I did. I moved far far away at 25. a good 2 hour drive.After counsling and good planning for my rentle.In 7 years I have not seen them much.Its a good thing.

Answer 7

Don't bring people to your house. Chances are, your whole family can't be embarrassing.

Answer 8

are you white trash or hillbilly family?!

Answer 9

Keep them at arms' length until they sharpen up.

Answer 10

If you feel this way about your family, who are a part of you, you will also be projecting these feelings of rejection on yourself.

Love is the answer.  Why are you so worried about what other people think?  Embarrassment stems from a fundamental belief within yourself, that your value lies in how other people view you.  You actually have an innate, and unchangable value.  Our individual uniqueness serves a greater purpose...

There are millions of different kinds of people in this world, and there are also millions of people who are willing to accept you and your family just they way they are.  Being different is not a crime.  Accentuate the positive....  look for the beautiful things in your family, and ignore those nagging voices that tell you that there is such a thing as "not good enough".  When you find the goodness in everyone, it is so much easier to love yourself, too.  ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚™Â¥

Answer 11

You love them regardless.  End of story.

Answer 12

You are 29 and still at home?  I realize the economy is rough, but if you WANT to bring visitors to your "home" and you are embarassed by your family, then you either have to find your OWN home, find some "neutral" territory where to meet (restaurant, library, coffee house, etc), or decide that you are not going to have a visitor to your "home."

I know how it can be to be embarassed and ashamed of your family.  After a lifetime of having a loving family, I find myself in that position, especially with a suddenly "Holier than thou" sister who thinks she knows better than me.  All I've done is "shack up" with someone, and SHE has suddenly "found religion."

Good luck!

Have a polite day.

Answer 13

Well, you could start being a little bit more understanding and patient and stop being so judgmental.  Your family members became the people they are because of their upbringing and experiences.  Perhaps they truly are less enlightened than you are;  but if you exhibit some compassion and understanding, they may learn from your example.  Also, you need to reexamine your friends...if your friends are so shallow that they will judge YOU based on your family members, they aren't going to be good friends to you.