What do you do if you are treated like gold, but the man doing the treating is........?

Question

About four hundred ninety pounds?? And I am not really attracted to big men. But he makes me feel like the queen of America. I am kinda embarrassed to go places with him, and he knows this. He's such a sweetie, but is way too big. Other than his weight he's a perfect gentleman. He knows how I feel about this. And he's trying but still eats junk.

Answer 1

Let him go so that he can find someone else (who isn't ashamed of being seen with him) to treat like a queen.  It's the least selfish thing you can do since you don't sound like the one for him. Besides maybe seeing him treat some one else like a queen will make you feel like a jackass for letting him go but least you wouldn't have to be embarrassed by his weight anymore.

As an aside I do believe everyone is entitled to have a preference yours just sounds so shallow TO ME.  Having said that; who am I?

Edit:  No apology necessary.

Answer 2

very tuff....

but at least you don't right him off which is the norm (tell me I'm wrong!)

I had a brother like that the women would just tell him he was to much of a man for them and poof,,gone.

being that big goes against the stuff inside us that says "good mate bad mate."

I don't think you should feel bad for basic feelings, I think your going over and above if spend any time with him at all.

Tell him in the most convinceing way you know that if he would get close to average weight your relationship could go to a completely new level.

Good  Luck

yea it's HAD a brother built like that he's gone now passed at age 45

Answer 3

girl why don't u suggest to him that he get gastric bypass all health insurance covers it or that new one lap band i don't know if it cover by ins. but look into it....girl u don't get rid of a catch like that over something as insignificant as weight if it was something u couldn't change but WEIGHT !  after the surgery encourage him 2 get therapy b/c whatever issue that caused him to gain all that weight will make him gain it

all back again

Answer 4

You've already made up your mind.  You are just stalling. Why? /

Answer 5

Give him a pity lay, hand job, something.

Answer 6

You find a man like that, you keep him.  Then you encourage (not nag) him to lose weight and eat right.

Point out some sexual fantasies you have that would only work if he was just a bit lighter....  And when he's achieved that, dangle another 'carrot'.

As for trying.......  I like a quote from the movie Matrix....  "Do, or do not.  There is no try.".  He just needs to commit.

Answer 7

Well, nobody can fault you for feeling like that.  Physical attraction is very important to people.  That being said, if you seriously see no future with him, then be a nice girl and let him go.  Don't string him along.  That's just cruel.

And, honey, if you don't want him, send him my way!!!  What baby wants, baby gets?   That's my kind of English!!!!!  I'd make his behind run around the block, forget that!!!