What do you do if you have FATHER-in-law trouble ? ? ?

Question

I hear plenty of people complain they have mother in law woes, but what if it's the father in law who is causing the bother?

My father in law hates me and I have no idea why, I've never done anything wrong.

I have a good job and treat my wife like a queen, I always have and always will, I treat others with respect and Im always pleasant to him but no matter what I do he still treats me with contempt.

My wife is his youngest child and only girl so he's over-protective but come on she had to grow up at some point!! What's some peoples problem??? (She's 27 now for crying out loud! And we've been married since she was 20 so I thought he'd be used to it by now but if anything he's getting worse)

Answer 1

show him some intimate polaroids of just how his youngest daughter has grown up, this will definitely bring the situation to a head

Answer 2

It's going to take a lot or a miracle to make him change.

You have already accepted the fact he does not like you and the only thing you can do is bite your tongue, put up with it (for the sake of your wife) and avoid him as much as reasonably necessary.

When you see him, accept and redirect his bullshit.

He may one day come around.  For now, you have his little girl.

Answer 3

he carnt get used he has give his little girl away i dont thinks hes mad at you he probs just want to make sure his girls safe and protected  

Answer 4

If you look at it from his persepctive...

You are not just the husband of his daughter...you are the husband of his LAST daughter...all the others were older and had gone their way but his youngest daughter was married to some guy at only 20 years old..

I'm 20 and my parents are the opposite of strict! But i think if i were to actually MARRY a guy they wud have doubt because it is so young to settle down, like it is the end of my 'fun-loving' time. They would want me to be happy and 'carefree' as long as possible. Especially since i am the youngest...to them i represent youth and this goes hand in hand with the whole 'young happy and free' ideology!

Like all these things, it isn't about YOU but i have to say marrying at only 20 years old and being the youngest daughter...he probably resents the fact that he no longer has a young daughter to see in her youth, he has a young daughter who is married and settled in life...and you personify the change, it was you she married and so as a person (not ure personality) you yourself 'took' her.

Answer 5

I know exactly what the problem is... You took his baby.

Most parents are that way, it is called empty nester syndrome.

I admit it has lasted a long time but that is the deal.

The best thing to do is talk to him man to man. But in a different way. Ask him for advice on a perfect gift for her birthday or an upcoming holiday. Ask him to go with you to help pick out a piece of jewelry.

Or find out what they liked to do together and father and daughter and get them a git certificate to spend that extra time together.

If all else fails - be direct. Ask him if you have done something to offend him? He might ask why you think that and just say that you love his wife (your mother-in-law) like a mom and you respect him and think of him as a dad and you want to make sure that everything is okay because it is important to his daughter (your wife) that you all be a family. Then it will seem as if she wants it instead of you kissing a**.

Don't worry about it. The hardest thing to learn after being married and having a family of your own is to focus on your family. In the end you come home to each other and that is all that matters. :)

Good luck!