What do you do if you know you're inferior but sick of feeling bad about yourself?

Question

Lately I've been feeling worthless... and there's no denying it. There was a guy I was really crazy about, my best friend actually, but ever since he got a girlfriend, his world revolves around her... and I became last week's garbage, out on the curb. He's blown me off, and he won't even write me emails anymore... but he loves her enough to die for her. My love for him hasn't died but I don't even know if I want him back because I don't want to live my life with someone who has hurt me. The trouble is, that it makes me so angry and jealous to watch him loving and being romantic with some other girl. Why didn't he love ME that way? Of course I hate the girlfriend, but it makes me jealous because I feel like the only girl on earth who doesn't have someone special. Theres no denying I'm worthless... in my 29 years, there hasn't been a single guy who loved me enough to honor a commitment to me. I always loved latin men and wanted a hispanic boyfriend and I know other girls who have latin boyfriends who would do ANYTHING for them. And this friend of mine barely acts like a friend anymore. I studied abroad in Mexico, and all I managed to do was

make "friends."

I'm always the "friebnd." No one has ever seen me as anything more than that. It seems like everyone else has someone special... there's no denying it, that I'm worthless... or someone would have picked me out by now.

My question is, what can I do to feel more like a woman? I feel inadequate, like a little kid... I don't feel like a woman. There's a reason nobody wanted me.

What can I do to feel more like a woman even though it's obvious I'm worthless as a woman?

Answer 1

You're not alone, I feel about the same as you do, just with friends and family. I'm 16, and my family always put me down and made me miserable and lonely, so I just shut myself off from them. I do have close friends that I love, but they seem to have friends they'd rather hang out with than me, because they blow me off and ditch me to go with someone else...

All I can say to make you feel better is that you're not the only one who feels worthless and doesn't have that special someone in your life.  

Answer 2

We have all been through it. Your only problem is your self esteem. There are many many people out there that would like to have (only) your problems.

Forget making having "someone" the important part of your life. That is too much unnecessary pressure on you. Instead collect all your energies together and make yourself the best person you can be. Make yourself into someone that you would like and respect. You likely already are but, finetune. The effort will pay off big time in your self esteem and how others (the important ones) wil see you.