What do you do if your family turns their backs on you?

Question

I have been living on my own since I was probably 14 years old, making sure that I did what I had to do when it came to surviving the streets. Some nights I wouldn't eat because I didn't have anything to eat. I was suppose to be living with my dad,but unfortunately at the time he was on drugs real bad (but before he pasted away in 04 he had changed his life around and was going to church on the regular), but on the other hand my mom had the rest of my siblings and I didn't think it was fair that I had to grow up the way I did. So whenever I was able to come around I acted very ungrateful and rude to everyone because I was hurt and they all acted like they didn't understand me. But now that I am 25 with 3 kids they still don't have anything to do with me. They don't call, come see us or anything. It hurts and I want to know how do you suppose to cope with that? They all see each other on the regular because they don't live too far from one another, they go to church together and have family outings, but when it comes to me and my kids it is like we don't exist. It was like this all my life and now their biggest excuse is gas is too high.

Answer 1

You just have to either invite them into your arms (AKA being the bigger person) or ignore it, which I don't recommend. Usually the case is , theyre offended, basically. They're probably a bit embarased that they had a kid growing up on the street due to family issues, which isn't your fault to say the least. Its your familys problem. Its your familys p[roblem they can't grow up and see what its going to be like without you there and being active in the family. I'm sorry! It must feel horrible to be rejected from your family. But the only thing you can do is ask them to come over and maybe talk about it,

Good luck.

Answer 2

Gas is too high..

I wouldn't let children near anyone like that.

Fallen excuses .

It's hard yeah, but you just got to understand that moving on is the best.

Answer 3

I'd be glad to not see and deal with them. I wouldn't allow those losers around my kids anyway.  

Answer 4

I'd get counseling.  Your better off without them I suppose. But in many ways, your the one who would show attitude back then.  

If you learned to dig in your heeels and move on, I suggest you still do so.