What do you do in an apartment building when all neighbors around you are friends and rude to you??

Question

The neighbors above me, across the hall from me, and kitty corner to me all are friends. They are all three single women with children.

I am married with 4 children all the same ages as my neighbors' children, but I won't let them play with them.

The neighbors are very rude and disrespectful. They sit by my living room window and talk about me badly. They do not watch their children and let them run in the parking lot of the apartment and through the hall and stairs in the building.

I feel like they are trying to gang up on me and I am trying to ignore them every day.

We can not move for a year (lease), so what should I do during this time of uncomfortable living conditions??

Answer 1

all i can say is to talk to the manager over the apartments and let them know whats going on and then maybe they can help out

Answer 2

go talk to them. show them you deserve some respect.

Answer 3

Have you given them a hard time while living there (complaining to the management about them or their kids, giving them the cold shoulder instead of being polite, etc.)? If so, I would suggest apologizing, because if it escalates any more, they might try to 'get even', and who knows what that might entail. Even if you think your neighbors are scumbags, it's smart to treat them civilly regardless, because you are going to have to live near them no matter what. You might be able to put in a written request to the management for a transfer to another apartment in the same complex, especially if it's a larger complex, and that would give you a fresh start with new neighbors. Just remember, it's always better to err on the side of kindness, because nastiness just breeds even more nastiness. That doesn't mean you have to let your children play together or have them over for a party every Saturday; it just means smiling and acknowledging their existence in a friendly way when you see them rather than turning up your nose at them. I had a neighbor once who was so rude to me and my family that I finally had to corner him in the elevator and threaten to use his head to perfect my golf swing before he would lay off. He was the self-appointed 'neighborhood watcher' and thought he needed to report it to the office every time we turned up the stereo, etc., even if it was 3pm on a weekend. You don't want to be like that idiotic old f**t, trust me.

Answer 4

You should try talking to them. Maybe they are sort of pushing you around because you ignor them, appearing weak.

I know where I live (Ontario), there are ways of getting out of your lease. Have you tried talking to the apartment owner? If he/she is a sincere person, they may let you out on the lease, several people I know have gotten out of their leases.

Answer 5

.......you have made a stand for your children's safety...it sounds like your "not letting your children play with theirs is justified.....there are probably other good reasons too...they are never going to like you because of the children situation....THEY.....of course do not understand and it would be a wste of time to try and explain it to them....you might let them know why IF you felt like it.....otherwise just get a thick skin and ignore them......been in similar situations......it gets easier....the thing that you MUST remember is  "what is more important?".....your children's safety and manners.....or being liked by a bunch of women who obviously are "loose" in their parenting skills....I wonder how they would view your philosophy if one of their children was "snatched" out of the parking lot or hallway.......usually doing the right thing is the hardest for some inexpicable reason.......kudos to you....my mother stood up for her beleifs and I was ostracized as a kid in a neighborhood with 80 kids.....but my onlky and best friend had three older brothers who were badder than everybody else combined......we quit riding the bus after the 8th grade.....his mom took us.......were we any the worse for it?.....no.........you must stand for something........or fall for anything.....hopefully , you have taken the high road when dealing with them....and that is not why they don't like you.....I suspect that the fact that YOU have a "mate" and they don't may play a factor in the "you're not in their club" deal......maybe jealousy weighs in......maybe you ar eslightly paranoid when you say that you feel like they "are trying to gang up on you".....lol...what?...the single mother's gang?.....try "killing them with kindness"...and don't worry about who is "right or wrong"..the rewards would probably outweigh the "sucking it up" on the pride deal.....if that doesn't work...then you know that you have taken the high road and done all that YOU can do...so YOU can sleep at night....if anything got TOO out of hand ....your husband should get involved  and help this "sewing circle" understand that you ...as his wife will NOT be disrespected by their sitting outside your living room window and dissing you...if they want  to do that they can go to their private area and who cares what these uneducated women gossip about.......kabeesh?.........