What do you do or say to a friend who constantly tries to use you?

Question

Like we've known each other for a long time and we've been pretty good pals. But lately I noticed that she always tries to use me. And not just me, like everyone around her. Like i guess some examples are; she would copy homework a lot (which half the time I don't really care about, because she's only hurting herself, but it kinda bugged me that she always relied to me to have mine done), or asking me to drive her places and kinda expecting me to, or coming over to hog the computer for assignments and wasting wayy too much time on myspace/facebook and overstaying her welcome a little bit, or i guess to sum it up, just puts her best interests firsts. Andd other times we can be great friends, but its when she acts kinda egotistic and selfish that makes me kinda dislike her.

So, what should I say to her or do when she starts to act this way without ruining our friendship?

Answer 1

Later, see yeah, goodbye, out of here,

All those will do it. =]

Answer 2

just stop letting her use you! don't be a tool. think about it

Answer 3

Dont say anything, actions are louder than words. Stop inviting her over, dont drive her anywhere, if she asks tell u got things to do for ur parents. Dont sit with her, but make sure they're subtle hints, dont just ignore her all at once. Just friendly hey's here and there. Start hanging out with other ppl in front of her, and show her how u guys act around each other.  

Answer 4

Goodbye.

Answer 5

Tell her your time is limited and precious, compare with hers. She will realise it..

Answer 6

Just because I am a nice person, does not mean people can use me. I would say look for other friends because she is not worth your time.  Trust me in the end you will be hurt for helping her so much.

Answer 7

see ya!

Answer 8

to start this off, a friend who tries to use you, isn't a friend at all.

but if you still wish to make this friendship work, say you feel like you are being used. She will probably get very pissed off, but honesty is best. she may then ask what the heck you're talking about, explain it to her. chances are she will say whatever and walk away. If she really likes you then she will not only come back, but she'll try to change. And if she doesn't come back, then she really is as bad of a friend as i think she is.

i have had two friends very similar to her. I finally got sick of it and just stopped picking up the phone when they called. they took the hint. I loved them more then anything, but when i finally figured out what they were doing, i decided to stop the problem. I had a few friends besides them at the time, they weren't as close to me as i was to the users, but at least i had someone to sit at lunch with. Soon i found new friends who, like the users, i love more then anything. but these friends are the opposite of them, they always put others before themselves.

i guess the moral of the story is, no matter how great you think your friend is, ending the relationship really is best when they use you.  and, there will always be better friends out there for you.