What do you do spiritually to ease your sorrow when you are missing a dear friend who has passed?

Question

Tonight I caught myself wanting to call my dearest friend and sister to share some news with her, just to hear her voice and then it hit me. I will not hear her voice again in this life. The tears started flowing hard again. I am sitting and remembering her and her love for all. Listening to music, lighting candles, looking at pictures and praying for her. How do you remember?

Answer 1

First of all, wipe out your tears

Pray for divine courage

Posses yourself of this positive taught that death isn’t an end, but the beginning of a new and everlasting existence

If a grain doesn’t wrought, it will never germinate, so shall we not go to heaven with this sinful flesh, there must be a transformation, mind you that your loved one is passing his/her transformation

Think of his/her life when alive and rejoice for those who lived their life in Christ Jesus are with him there above rejoicing and awaiting their reward in Christ Jesus, may their soul rest in peace.

There is no family without a dead one ever, so shall we all pass trough that road…

Answer 2

Nothing.  You let yourself experience the sorrow and it will pass on its own.  Sorrow is part of life and the only way to avoid it is to never love.

I came here only briefly before she left, but I understand why she touched so many lives.  She was gentle and peaceful and kindness defined her.

Answer 3

Hugs, and yes I miss her too. I have some of her questions, and a poem or two that she wrote.

Blessings to you, I'll say a rosary for both you and Debra before I go to bed tonight.

JMJ

((((Sandey))))

Answer 4

Remember? Try to see if you can forget.

When a friend/parent/child dies a piece of you dies with them.

Answer 5

I draw. And I write.

I drew a picture and a matching poem for my Uncle... but other than that I try not to think too much of him, because he wouldn't want me to be feeling sad about him.

Answer 6

Losing a loved one to death is a painful experience. Jesus understood the pain of losing someone close to His heart. In the Book of John (11:1-44), we learn that Jesus lost a friend named Lazarus. Jesus was deeply moved and wept at the loss of His friend. This story, however, doesn't end in tears. Jesus knew He possessed the power needed to raise Lazarus from the dead. Jesus said, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die" (John 11:25). Jesus overcame death through His resurrection. It is comforting to know that death is not the end for those who believe. Those who know Jesus as Savior will have eternal life (John 10:28). God has prepared a new home for us where there will be no more death, tears or pain (Revelation 21:1-4).

While you are healing from the loss of a loved one, God will comfort you (2 Corinthians 7:6). The Bible tells us that God is the father of mercies and that He will comfort us in all our tribulations (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). Be assured that God loves you and that He understands how much you are hurting. God promises you in Isaiah 43:2 that when you go through deep waters and great trouble, He will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. Run to the shelter of the Most High where you will find sweet rest (Psalm 91:1-2).

I am very sorry. I will pray for you. Reading the Bible brings tremendous comfort and just keep praying and pouring your heart out to GOD.

Soon death will be no more.

Love a born again Christian  

Answer 7

sorry for your loss.    sorrow has only one remedy and that is time it is okay to feel sorrow and to miss someone that has passed.  

Answer 8

Have a beer or two or a sick pack

Oh, and I forgot, I have no friends...ha ha

Answer 9

Sandey,

I think you are doing all the right things. Unfortunately time is the element that often has to pass before our grief heals and calms. I talk to God about it and pour out my feelings to Him. I remind myself that this person is with God (if they are like Debra) and I ask Him to comfort me in the loneliness of staying behind. Sometimes I really wish I could go home to be with God, NOT suicide, just lonely longing to go back to God and be at home with Him.

I will pray for you to receive God's comfort and healing for the hurt you feel in missing Debra. I wish I could do more, but I am not able to do more.

Answer 10

In the short time I knew Debra she was the most kindest, caring person her, didn't matter what Religion you were,

I also did something unusual, she told me to let her know when my daughter got out of hospital to let her know and to send her a photo, well a couple of weeks ago I went to email her and a recent photo then I realised that she was no longer here, I prayed.

It will take us a long time, but I don't think we will ever forget Debra, she is in our hearts forever

Answer 11

I'm sorry....I really am.

How about reminiscing with others? That way you can share in your grief. Reflect upon the good things. You believe in seeing her again, right? In that case, what's another 40 or so years?  

Answer 12

Most all religions have a common belief that there is some kind of life after death or that our spirits are eternal. Therefore, whatever your beliefs may be, take some solace in this... no really dies. They may leave this world and we feel sad for our own loss, but even our own lives are temporary. You will always miss her, but you will never be without her. Whatever impression she left upon you will never fade away, and you should be grateful for this, and live your life to the fullest, as I am sure she would have wanted you to do.

Answer 13

sorry for your loss,

what I do is remember all the good times we have and sometimes in my heart I say to them I love you. My comfort is I believe I will see them again

Answer 14

My grandpa died when I was 8 years old. I was sad because he was my best friend. I know that being a family forever is possible. I will see my grandpa, and all of my family that's passed away after I die.

Even though Christ conquered physical death, all people must die, for death is part of the process by which we are transformed from mortality to immortality. At death our spirits go to the spirit world. Death does not change our personality or our desires for good or evil. Those who chose to obey God in this life live in a state of happiness, peace, and rest from troubles and care. Those who chose not to obey in this life and did not repend live in a state of unhappiness. In the spirit world the gospel is preached to those who did not ovey the gospel or have the opportunity to hear it while on earth. We reain in the spirit world until we are resurrected.

"We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator's plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize his or her divine destiny as an heir of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God's eternal plan.

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed. "

This proclamation was read by President Gordon B. Hinckley as part of his message at the General Relief Society Meeting held September 23, 1995, in Salt Lake City, Utah.