What do you do when God tells you to ask someone to marry you, yet the others parents would not approve?

Question

God has been pointing out in my life that i should ask a certain person to marry me if i am to follow his will. Yet the Bible teaches that one needs a fathers consent to marry a woman before it can be thought of as "right".

I'm as such a loss, i'm trying to follow God, but im supossed to follow his word while following him which takes me back to square one.

her parents would not approve of it by the way.

Answer 1

excuse me where in the bible does it say that a father's permission is needed.........there is no way it says that.........show me........you know what the bible does say “Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.” (Matt. 19:6)...........yes this does apply to people who are already married but i still think that her father/family will forgive you both as long as you end up happy..........do it anyway who cares what they think believe me there is no way it says that in the bible.........go for it!!!

Answer 2

If god started talking to me, i'd go get counselling.

Hearing voices ain't normal.  

Answer 3

Scripture says to honor your father and mother that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth. If you want life to go well for you and your wife, you have to honor your parents, and she has to honor her parents. I know you know this, and that's why you don't know what to do, because God's will appears to conflict with what her parents want.

I know that must be hard. Don't get discouraged - God WILL work out what is His will.  

If you are absolutely confident that this is God's will and believe God will do whatever it takes to enable you to do His will, then pray that God will change her parents' minds. It may be God's will and your faith is being tested - you are going to have to believe God to do a miracle, so you can do His will.

If you do this and God does not move her parents' hearts, then you must wait and keep praying until He does. Just because this is God's will does not mean it is God's will to happen NOW.

I had a friend who was convinced God wanted her in China as a missionary, but her Dad was dead-set and adamant that he would NOT allow her to go. She prayed for literally several years about it and waited for her dad to change his mind (she was in college at the time). The very time she graduated from college, her dad finally agreed for her to go, and she did go. It was God's will, but her faith was tested for some time, and she kept praying and believing, and God did change her dad's mind - miraculously - I don't think he is a Christian, so he doesn't understand why she wants to be a missionary at all.

I also heard a story of a guy in a similar situation to yours - but her parents didn't want him and their daughter to date. They both were heartbroken. So he decided to bury his dreams so they could honor her parents' wishes, and they stopped dating. A few years passed. I'm sure God was working in his heart and helping him to grow in many ways, but during that time God also convinced her parents that he WAS good for their daughter. After those years, her parents gave their permission, and they began to date and I think eventually married.

You may be absolutely correct that this is God's will, but it just may not be His time yet. God does everything in His own time and sometimes He lets His people in on His plans before it is time for those plans to happen. (Like, remember in the Old Testament how God told Abraham, years before it happened, that he was going to have a son? It took faith for Abraham to believe even though it took years before God fulfilled that promise. God may want to grow your faith and be using this to do so.)

It's refreshing to read a Christian perspective on dating, here, in this Singles and Dating section...God will honor you for wanting to honor Him!

Answer 4

Dude.  You're so lucky.  God never speaks to me.  Since you're cool with Him like that . . . can you tell him Annabella is STILL not winning anything on lottery scratchers.  Thanks!

Answer 5

Keep praying about it. Make sure it's what God wants and not what you want. Sometimes our own feelings get in the way and we reason w/ ourselves allowing us to think that it's what God wants, but really it's just us.

So, pray and KEEP on praying fervently.

Another thing you should look at: is she unequally yoked w/ you? Meaning, does she believe the same you do? B/c I honestly DO NOT think that God would go against His own Word. He hasn't and never will.

Answer 6

Ask the dad, then marry her anyway.  Don't let the love of your life get away based on what some guy wrote thousands of years ago.

Answer 7

Take it from one that knows.  When the parents don't approve you have doom in your life.  Love is blind, it will make you see things that are not really there and cover up things that you need to see.  If the parents won't say yes there is a reason.  Listen to them.

Answer 8

I believe in God, but I also believe that we sometimes confuse God speaking and what we want speaking.  Listen to your parents.  They know what they're talking about.