What do you do when an ex wants to be friends?

Question

she had an affair and the guy dumped her 2 months later then she divorced me 7 months later and the divorce was 12/10/08 yes last year. but we rarely talk cause I don't want to and each time we do she brings up friendship. Why do you think she wants this so bad it is always asked, yet she says she is over me ??

Answer 1

In my experience women want to maintain all their relationships.  Even if they are fundamentally changed.  If a relationship dwindles to where you barely talk they think of it as a personal failure.

Answer 2

She isn't over you. Being your friend will be her way of getting close to you again. And anyway, is she with anyone? She just shouldn't play games with you. It hurts too much and you didn't want a divorce anyway...just to hard if you can't be together all the time. Either all or nothing!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Simple. She feels guilty for doing you wrong and wants to find a way to get rid of that guilt. If you become her friend then she can assume that you have forgiven and hopefully that will make her feel better. It's just as selfish as when she cheated on you. Tell her to stick it!  

Answer 4

She needs you to be her fall-back guy.  As soon as some guy comes into the picture, you won't hear from her until they break up.  The best solution is to have no contact with her.

Answer 5

I do believe she is so over you.  Do it for the love you had for each other in the past. Why not?

Answer 6

Unless you have kids, there is no reason to talk to an ex.  You do have some game right?  You do have the ability to talk to other women instead of crawling back to something you threw out, right?

Answer 7

1. When an ex wants to be friends, just say no.

2. 12/10/08???? That hasn't happened yet!!!

Answer 8

You say 'No thank you, you cheat!!!".

Answer 9

Do you love her? If so then try again. My wife left me and disappeared, I love her dearly and would do anything to have her home again. People make mistakes, big ones and small ones, yet deserve chances to make it up if they realize how wrong it was.

Answer 10

she wants forgiveness

Answer 11

there is no reason why you guys can be friend. Go ahead, be friendly with him but of course thus time you should be extra careful to fall in love all over again. If yes, why not. Love is sweeter the second time around.  

Answer 12

Just Say No.

Answer 13

She could want a lot of things. She may need forgiveness, acceptance, because she isn't getting any from anywhere else, or she genuinely misses you. The connection that brought you two together may still be there, so choose wisely how you proceed. If she hasn't changed much, you may end up falling right back into the same place you left.