What do you do when it's 6 weeks before the wedding & your financee has been taking Viagra behind your back?

Question

I'm upset that he lied. He can talk to me about anything. I've only known him 3 months. I think I'm in shock.

Answer 1

Ah, he's probably just embarrassed, that's all.  I mean, it's not like he cheated on you or anything- he's just a little embarrassed about having to take medication for a very personal, private problem.  I mean, I'm sure you don't talk to him in detail about every little feminine problem you have (at least I hope you don't- nothing like yeast infection talk to turn a guy off!!)  Think of all the embarrassing "down-there" problems you've ever had- are they something you'd discuss with anyone, even the man you're spending your life with?  For a man, erectile dysfunction is an extremely sensitive topic, and he probably just figured that what you didn't know about the Viagra wouldn't hurt you.  You see it as a breach of trust, but I guarantee that he sees it as something that really isn't your business.  Maybe he thought that if he told you about it, you'd feel like it was something you were doing wrong, or that he didn't find you attractive or something.  I think he was just trying to protect you, and it was a little misguided.  Give the guy a break!

Answer 2

Soap opera

Answer 3

hes doing it for you be happy

Answer 4

It's for your benefit thought babe! enjoy the effects while you can ;0)

Answer 5

If you're having second thoughts over a little thing like this, it's probably best if you postpone the wedding until things feel a little more solid. It may be that your hesitating for reasons beyond the viagra.

Answer 6

So he's been taking viagra and you don't even know him-why are you in a relationship?

Honestly you have no business getting married.

Good luck.

Answer 7

When you have only known him for this amount of time, these things are going to happen, before and after the wedding.

You may want to postpone the wedding for now. Tell him that you want to be engaged for longer so that the stress isn't so high. Live with him for a couple months, plan the wedding for next year.

Slow down take some time. If he's lying to you about this, there could be more. I don't want to sound negative but these things need to be worked out before you say i do.

Answer 8

First why are you marrying someone after only knowing him 3 months.Thats nuts. And second why are you suprised.

You could always make him wear a blue tux with that Viagra hue

Answer 9

You have known him for 3 months and your gonna marry him? I have been with my bf for 4 going on 5 months. Set down and talk to him tell him to explain.

Hope i helped =)

Answer 10

If you've only known him three months, I wouldn't be shocked. Your still getting to know him, which is why most people wait longer to get married, or else they have a better chance of regretting it.

Answer 11

3 Months? you are marrying after only knowing him for 3 months, hun, you are going to quick, first, think about your future, you would want to settle down with someone you known for longer, you are already having second thoughts, put the wedding off, and if he is taking viagra, confront him, talk to him about it, sit down and have a mature converstation then tell him you dont want to marry him and get to know him better, hope you remain happy whatever your decision maybe.

Answer 12

I understand you being upset that he lied, so it makes you wonder if he's lying about anything else. But you have to think about it this way--taking viagra could be a way to 'suprise' you on the honeymoon! Don't make a drama session about it, just politely ask him why he kept it from you.

It's nothing to worry about if he has never lied to you before. But if he does it quite often, you should look into it!

Hope I helped, good luck!!!

Answer 13

This is the kind of thing that happens when you rush into a marriage. You don't know your partner very well at all.  I would suspect that there are probably a lot of other things you don't know about him. I would hold off several more months on the wedding and get to know each other a lot better.

Answer 14

3 Months?  That's too short to have known him.  You should get to know someone for over a year or two to see how they react in all situations.  Also after a year or two many lies come to surface and he can't pretend forever.  break off the engagement and tell him that if he has self-esteem issues, they need to be worked out for your relationship to work.  If he says you are overreacting or too sensitive then he has too little self-esteem and is blaming you for his problem.  Don't take that.

Answer 15

Maybe the fact that you met and are getting married within 6 months is part of the reason he doesn't share actually share with you.  You are about to commit the rest of your life to this person and a little viagra is upsetting you?  

I think it's obvious to everyone reading this that you rushed into something way too fast.

Answer 16

You should understand that his distress on the defection  is deeper than yours.

Answer 17

If you've only known him for 3 months, at what point did he propose to you?  weddings take a long time to plan, so I'm guessing after 2 months, maximum.  You really can't expect anyone to know everything about someone in that kind of time.  Also in terms of the viagra, he is doing it for your benefit, so don't complain.  Also, how did you find out?  were you snooping in his things or did he admit it to you?  Either you shouldn't have been snooping in his things or he felt alright to go and talk to you about it.

Answer 18

Regardless of the viagra, only knowing each other 3 months is good enough reason to push back the wedding a good year. You REALLY have to know someone and know all the intimate details about someone before you can make an informed decision on whether or not to marry them. He probably didn't want to tell you because he's not at that comfort level with you yet, which is a huge indicator you two are not ready to get married. What's the rush?

Answer 19

Your getting married too soon, if he is lying to you about this he is probably lying about other things. Push the wedding back another year.

Answer 20

OK so you are marring a guy that you've known 3 months?  Granted I have know it to work for meany couples but why are you surprised you didn't know the whole truth.  you havent known eachother long enough for him to feel that comfortable to tell you.  And maybe he was hoping to fix the problem before it was a problem.

Answer 21

Think of it this way... he is trying to please you so be happy!

Answer 22

He is probably didn't tell you because he was embrassed.