What do you do when someone says they hate you?

Question

I'm wondering what people think. If you are in a relationship with someone and you have an arguement and they say they hate you and curse at you. Later on they say I'm sorry I didn't mean what I said I don't hate you.

To me it shows complete disrespect for the person you are in the relationship with. Should I just be understanding and think that they don't really mean it? I can't really change this person and I'm not willing to end the relationship over it. However, I don't want to be talked to like that. I think it is ok to have an arguement but this behavior is immature and I'm not sure how to resolve it. Thanks.

Answer 1

Buy them a coke.  

Answer 2

Maybe because ot the outburst of anger.  Anyway, talk to him and tell him never do it again. Explain to him that every time he is cursing you and and telling that he hates you makes you upset.  And tell him honestly how you feel about it. If he did it again tell him you want to have a space for a while. And if you think you can  leave without him move on. This is my own opinion.  

Answer 3

It's as easy as 1-2-3.  Tell them that you understand that it was a fight and that things get said, but hate is a super strong word.  They need to realize that it hurt the most to be told you were hated.  See if they can keep from saying that when they are angry.  That, and you shouldn't take it that seriously, especially if they apologized.  It's not like they smacked you across the face.  Not that either is good- but it was the heat of the moment.  If you don't tell them how you feel they'll never know, remember that, too!  

Answer 4

Cut them loose. You don't need people in your life that think they can do or say anything and then say "I'm sorry" and think that should be the end of it.

People like this cannot be trusted with secrets or delicate information.

Answer 5

I feel like this,  Don't make excuses for what supposedly slipped out,  if it was said in anger.... it means all the same to me.  if you took the time to think it and then say it.... you meant it..   Hate is a strong word to me and I don't say it lightly especially about another person.

Express to this person how you are feeling about being told such an awful thing.  Good luck luv.