What do you do when someone you live with says and treats you like you are stupid all of the time?

Question

Moving out is not an option.

Answer 1

Put him on P.R.  

Answer 2

i have that exact same problem...i usually ignore them or just not talk to them....my stepdad did that to me last night so i talked to my mom alot to get my mind off of him...or i go out somewhere with my friends...they listen to me..so...but i would try to work it out because that happened to my parents and they just got divorced...

Answer 3

grow bitter and resentful.

Answer 4

Moving out is not an option?  Why not?  

Shame on you for allowing anyone to treat you this way & then giving them the excuse to do so!!!

Answer 5

I'd just move out no matter the consequences cause i would hate to live wit someone who treats me like i'm in kindergarten.

Answer 6

well then nothing??? what kind of answers do you want.  dont complain if you lock yourself in to misery.

if he wont attend some kind of counseling with you than.....this is your life.  And if its religious reasons, well than hubbie isnt a very religious man because he is not revering his wife as the bible says.  

Answer 7

Stop caring what the person says.  Hold your head high, be yourself, and be assertive.

Answer 8

dump him and move out. If you say you can't move out then you will have to live with it. You have options but only if you choose to use them.

Answer 9

start doing the same thing to them.  

Answer 10

stay with someone else for a while to get some alone time, i try-ed that but nothing changed so i left i even stayed at a hotel for 3 months still nothing changed you cant control a person feeling and how they express them, But you can control your feeling and how you act. (good luck)

Answer 11

Please be more specific, why can't you move out?

Answer 12

I'd find a way to move out.

Answer 13

why you cant move out?

Answer 14

well you need to move or you need to save money on the side to get a divorce he is a mental abuser and thinks he knows it all.  You dont need to live with this

Answer 15

God! that sounds like my ex-boyfriend!!! I just wanted to choke him at times... but you know what i did? I kicked his sorry *** so hard that he landed in Timbuktu!!!! Oh and he didn't only treat me like i was stupid he even called me Paris Hilton for as dumb as I was... I men he was in 12 grade and i was in 9th he was bound to be smarter than me!!!

Answer 16

My husband is that way...I have grown very distant from him in the last year.  You have to stand up to him or he will continue to treat you this way.  I did not stand up to my husband and I'm afraid my marriage is just about over.  If you do value your relationship with this person, stand up to him now and let him know how you feel.

Answer 17

Why isn't moving out an option?  I guess I would just try to ignore it and live my own life.  I would make sure that I went out of my way to be extra nice to that person.  You know the old saying "Kill them with kindness"

Answer 18

Just deal with it.  You obviously got yourself into this situation and your refusing to do anything about it so just accept it.  

Answer 19

The same thing you do to keep rain out. You build something that protects you. If you live in a house of leaves you are going to get rained on so you might want a house of straw or you might want something stronger. In other words you make yourself so strong that it doesn't matter what anyone in world says to you. I know who I AM so it doesn't matter to me what anyone else things. I coach people so they can learn how to think in order to live a love they love. You can e-mail me about coaching, it would be well worth it for you. You have to make the move & do what it takes though no one else can do that for you.

Answer 20

It depends....

Who are we talking about here?  If you are 15, live with your parents and feel it's your parents who treat you like you are stupid, you need to reevaluate what's going on.  Maybe you have made some mistakes or bad choices that, your parents feel, show a lack of maturity.  Is this the case?

If we are talking about a man, boyfriend/husband, who makes you feel stupid, then the situation is different.  If this is the case, then you can always move out.  Or ask him to leave if it's your place you are both living in.

Or, you can try to improve the relationship but he has to want to work on it too.  If he sees nothing wrong with the relationship but you're unhappy with the way he's treating you, then you need to cut your losses and move on.

We really need more info to advise you in a meaningful way.



OK, you added more info while I was writing my answer.  My ex used to do this to me.  I am an intelligent person, but he could make me feel like I was the most ignorant fool on earth.  This was a bad relationship pattern from his childhood; his whole family were extremely demeaning and belittling to each other.

I finally sat him down and said, "Look, I'm not happy!  I don't like the way you treat me.  I am so serious that I am considering divorce, but I am willing to work on this if you are."

We started going to counseling.  It made him aware of what he was doing and did help that aspect of the relationship.  Unfortunately, we waited so long that a lot of other problems were created that were directly related to the way he was treating me (he was very controlling, in addition).

I encourage you to not wait till it gets to that point.  See a marriage counselor or a minister, if you so choose, and get a neutral third party involved.  Good Luck!

Answer 21

Are you stupid? It sounds like you may be somewhat stupid to stay there without even considering leaving a situation you say is so bad. Maybe hes right.

Answer 22

moving out is always an option

Answer 23

You are treated the way you demand to be treated, the way you present yourself and moving is ALWAYS an option unless you choose to avoid it.

Answer 24

If you can't move out, kick his *** out instead. No woman should put up with that kind of abuse

Answer 25

Moving out is always an option...and it becomes a viable option the instant you realize you are dserving of better than what you are willing to tolerate at this precise moment. The only thing holding you back is YOU.