What do you do when you're feeling sad?

Question

Because of disappointing events that have happened to me recently I have been feeling downtrodden. Unfortunately it's been all to easy to get into a negative rut about it all. I want to push away the clouds and have the sun come out again but my mood remains dark. Any suggestions on getting rid of the blues?

Answer 1

Go on a hike, have sushi with a friend, learn a new hobby...these things help me out.  You can find your healthy distraction...just don't forget to deal.

Answer 2

think the "dissappointing "event as a learning experience. think anything positive about it instead the negative side of it. think about what you like in the event.

Answer 3

The environment you are in when the sadness is heavier will likely have influence in perpetuating the sadness.  It is best for you physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to break routine and do activities that you do not ordinarily do but have wanted to and have been putting off, or procrastinating.

This is a time when you need to take on a challenge, an activity or event that you are not familiar with.  What about horseback riding?  Hot air balloon ride?  Train ride through the country?  Museum tour?  

Breaking out of a funk is only possible with a burst of effort.  It is that burst of effort that is the most difficult to take on.  So be assured that once you actually BEGIN something new, you will become distracted from sadness and equipped to replace the negative mood with a positive one....naturally occurs with achieving a goal.  And the best part of living is to enjoy the process of working towards a goal, not just the goal itself.  It is the time between decision of goal and actual achievement of goal that is the essence of life.  

Answer 4

listen to Bob Marley and smoke bowls

Answer 5

when i really want to get my mind off something, i do what i love doing the most... playing soccer! or in your case, exercise or play a sport. it frees your mind and lets go of any worry or doubt.. usually when im out playing, i can express any of my anger or emotions out on the field. it really is the solution to any of the stress i have.. hope i helped!

Answer 6

Like Dr. Alfred Adler (founder of Individual Psychology) and Dr. Albert Ellis (founder of Rational-Emotive Therapy) I do not allow myself to feel sad because I do not permit the thoughts that become the basis for sadness.

Disappointments do not just happen; they are my fault. I create mental expectations of the "way things should be" and then, because I think of them in idealistic or perfectionist terms, they cannot possibly be the way I want them to be. Such ideal expectations become the basis for real-life disappointments.

So, in addition to not allowing myself to think sad thoughts, I also do not allow myself to create perfectionist expectations of events or people or myself.

If you seem not to be able to control your mood (which, by the way, is your choice, and you choose your mood in order to get something out of it) then try the simple but highly effective "4-S Method" of thought and feeling control:

1. Stop sign -- When you sense a thought you don't want in your head, in your imagination hold up a huge red stop sign, perhaps being held by a stern-faced crossing guard!

2. Shout it out -- Shout at the thought, scream at it, curse at it, yell at it (all in your mind, of course!) until you can sense that it is leaving your mind. (The nice thing about the mind is that it cannot contain more than a single conscious thought at a time.) Treat it like an intruder in your mind, someone you DO NOT want in there! Get angry at it!

3. Substitute -- Have handy a sentence or thought to put in the place of the unwanted thought. Make it something strong, something positive, something you really want to believe! (Some people carry such positive or self-encouraging thoughts with them, on 3 x 5 cards.)

4. Sustain -- Keep at it. YOU CREATED THE UNWANTED THOUGHT FOR A REASON! ("Psychology of Use" says you think all your thoughts in order to get something from them!) As you kick the unwanted thought out the front door, it will turn around and try to sneak in a window or down the chimney! DON'T LET IT!

Keep repeating the four S's until you find yourself to be in charge of the thought you don't want. As you become more comfortable with this, you'll find you are more in control of your whole mind, and also of your feelings.

By this time next week you will feel more in control of your unwelcome feelings and thoughts. If not...that's an indication that you get something out of having such thoughts and feelings, and that you do not want to give them up yet...

Answer 7

1.LISTEN TO MUSIC THAT SUITS YOUR MOOD..

2.WRITE DOWN YOUR WORRIES,PROBLEMS,ETC(I DO IT ALL THE TIME)

3.DO SOMETHING THAT U ENJOY ALOT

I DO THESE 3 THINGS EVERYTIME THAT IM UNHAPPY,IT WORKS ALWAYS 4 ME....HOPE IT HELPS U....